Comments on: What are the chances i will be able to go through with giving my baby up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/ Tue, 22 May 2012 13:25:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: NikeP http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5328 NikeP Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:41:10 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5328 NikePI am expecting a baby now and waited for this moment my whole life (I am 36 and this is my first!) I know you will do what your heart tells you to do in the end. Sometimes you can make arrangements with the family that adopts to have visitations. Two of my aunts adopted at least 5 children each--and their parents are still a huge part of their lives! They visit whenever they want to and the children stay in touch with them. They went as far as to adopt more than one child from the same mothers so that their children could be together as well! So there are ways to make you feel comfortable with it as well. But if your heart tells you to keep your child, then God will help you to find a way to care for your child. Do you have any support from family, friends, DFACS, churches or any other source? That is very important if you can find support from anyone at this time. I don't know what I would do without the support of my husband! NikePI am expecting a baby now and waited for this moment my whole life (I am 36 and this is my first!) I know you will do what your heart tells you to do in the end. Sometimes you can make arrangements with the family that adopts to have visitations. Two of my aunts adopted at least 5 children each–and their parents are still a huge part of their lives! They visit whenever they want to and the children stay in touch with them. They went as far as to adopt more than one child from the same mothers so that their children could be together as well! So there are ways to make you feel comfortable with it as well. But if your heart tells you to keep your child, then God will help you to find a way to care for your child. Do you have any support from family, friends, DFACS, churches or any other source? That is very important if you can find support from anyone at this time. I don’t know what I would do without the support of my husband!

]]> By: kerry http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5327 kerry Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:41:14 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5327 kerryIf you can care for her and give her love and kindness and teach her right from wrong as she grows up then you are giving her the life she deserves kerryIf you can care for her and give her love and kindness and teach her right from wrong as she grows up then you are giving her the life she deserves

]]> By: Jade! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5326 Jade! Sun, 04 Oct 2009 20:05:26 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5326 Jade!What your feeling is totally normal- its natural for parents to be to feel like they are not up for the job. Its a huge responsibility so there is pressure there as well! If you love your bub this much already then its highly unlikely that you will be able to give up your little girl once you have met her. I think the best thing you can do is to go to all your antenatal classes and accept any maternal support you can. if you can give your baby love and memories then you will be ok. I think you would regret it down the track if you gave up your little girl. if you are having doubts which you are then that is also a sign that you shouldnt go ahead with adoption. All the best. Jade!What your feeling is totally normal- its natural for parents to be to feel like they are not up for the job. Its a huge responsibility so there is pressure there as well!

If you love your bub this much already then its highly unlikely that you will be able to give up your little girl once you have met her.

I think the best thing you can do is to go to all your antenatal classes and accept any maternal support you can.

if you can give your baby love and memories then you will be ok. I think you would regret it down the track if you gave up your little girl. if you are having doubts which you are then that is also a sign that you shouldnt go ahead with adoption.

All the best.

]]> By: baffled http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5325 baffled Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:06:17 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5325 baffledIf your that attached already, I think you should keep her. Maybe you cant give her everything you want to, but a loving mother and siblings can be such a huge factor in the quality of a child's life. Some of the happiest people I know had nothing growing up except a loving parent. Also, although adoption is the best thing it some cases, i've known people who've had a very hard time accepting being adopted, especially the ones who's birth parents didnt give up their siblings. baffledIf your that attached already, I think you should keep her. Maybe you cant give her everything you want to, but a loving mother and siblings can be such a huge factor in the quality of a child’s life. Some of the happiest people I know had nothing growing up except a loving parent. Also, although adoption is the best thing it some cases, i’ve known people who’ve had a very hard time accepting being adopted, especially the ones who’s birth parents didnt give up their siblings.

]]> By: Live, Love, Dance!!! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5324 Live, Love, Dance!!! Thu, 01 Oct 2009 10:03:55 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5324 Live, Love, Dance!!!You have the right to these feelings. It would probably be best to find a support group of women who have done this and can help support you through the next 3 months, plus the next six months following the birth of your daughter. If you change your mind than you change your mind. The family that is lined up needs to know this in advance this is part of the unknown? Don't break their hearts...I would find a couple who would work through this with you and have open hearts to this possiblity. Why are you doing this? If you feel this way so strongly then your heart is telling you not to give her up. Take care of yourself. Live, Love, Dance!!!You have the right to these feelings. It would probably be best to find a support group of women who have done this and can help support you through the next 3 months, plus the next six months following the birth of your daughter. If you change your mind than you change your mind. The family that is lined up needs to know this in advance this is part of the unknown? Don’t break their hearts…I would find a couple who would work through this with you and have open hearts to this possiblity.

Why are you doing this? If you feel this way so strongly then your heart is telling you not to give her up. Take care of yourself.

]]> By: Lou http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5323 Lou Tue, 29 Sep 2009 07:41:16 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5323 LouSounds to me like you can give her the life she deserves. You love her and so do your other kids. Thats all she will ever need. I know if it was me i wouldnt be able to do it feeling the way you do about your unborn. LouSounds to me like you can give her the life she deserves. You love her and so do your other kids. Thats all she will ever need.

I know if it was me i wouldnt be able to do it feeling the way you do about your unborn.

]]> By: Melanie M http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5322 Melanie M Mon, 28 Sep 2009 22:47:48 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5322 Melanie MHow many kids do you have already? Why is this one going to add to your problems? Your in a rough position and I've totally been there. But it was my first child and under different circumstances. She's 20 now and not in the best of positions but she's back in my life and she's WAY better off than she EVER would have been with me!! I was homeless. It's easier to do alone than to drag a kid threw it with you! If you CAN take care of her then do it!! If she's gonna be better off then let go!! Go the private route though........... And pick and choose! Melanie MHow many kids do you have already? Why is this one going to add to your problems? Your in a rough position and I’ve totally been there. But it was my first child and under different circumstances. She’s 20 now and not in the best of positions but she’s back in my life and she’s WAY better off than she EVER would have been with me!! I was homeless. It’s easier to do alone than to drag a kid threw it with you! If you CAN take care of her then do it!! If she’s gonna be better off then let go!! Go the private route though……….. And pick and choose!

]]> By: Munchkin'sMa-ma! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5321 Munchkin'sMa-ma! Mon, 28 Sep 2009 10:44:34 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5321 Munchkin'sMa-ma!it really sounds like you want to keep her Munchkin’sMa-ma!it really sounds like you want to keep her

]]> By: Forever Eternity http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5320 Forever Eternity Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:35:10 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5320 Forever EternityDo you want to give your little girl up for adoption?? I am sorry to hear that if you do... Think with you're heart. Will you regret it later on in life, and would you want her back?? You need to ask yourself these questions? Can't you keep her? I've been trying to have a baby for 3 years and it's so lucky for you that you can have children and are currently pregnant... =) I just hope for your sake that you make the right decisions. Think about your family.. They sound like they are already accepting her as part of the family, so why not include her in, when she is born.. Good Luck! Forever EternityDo you want to give your little girl up for adoption?? I am sorry to hear that if you do…
Think with you’re heart. Will you regret it later on in life, and would you want her back??
You need to ask yourself these questions? Can’t you keep her?
I’ve been trying to have a baby for 3 years and it’s so lucky for you that you can have children and are currently pregnant… =)

I just hope for your sake that you make the right decisions.

Think about your family.. They sound like they are already accepting her as part of the family, so why not include her in, when she is born..

Good Luck!

]]> By: Cecile S http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5319 Cecile S Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:40:16 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/what-are-the-chances-i-will-be-able-to-go-through-with-giving-my-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-5319 Cecile Sawww I'm really sorry to hear - congratulations on your pregnancy anyway, hope it all goes well :) Only you can answer this question, to be honest. Do you really have to give her up for adoption, can this be reconsidered if you really change your mind at the last minute? Can you enter an agreement with the family and ask them to have visitation rights so she gets the best care she has, plus the extra love that you will give her whenever you go visit her? All the best, this is a really hard position to be in but I'm glad to hear that you want what's best for her. Cecile Sawww I’m really sorry to hear - congratulations on your pregnancy anyway, hope it all goes well :)
Only you can answer this question, to be honest.

Do you really have to give her up for adoption, can this be reconsidered if you really change your mind at the last minute?
Can you enter an agreement with the family and ask them to have visitation rights so she gets the best care she has, plus the extra love that you will give her whenever you go visit her?

All the best, this is a really hard position to be in but I’m glad to hear that you want what’s best for her.

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