what do you think about a woman giving her newborn baby up for adoption when she is not financially stable?
joanna b asked:
please tell me what kind of counseling i should get in order to prepare myself for when that itme comes!
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please tell me what kind of counseling i should get in order to prepare myself for when that itme comes!
March 29th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
I think it is the responsible thing to do if she cannot afford to care for the child. I’m sure most adoption agencies offer counseling of some sort so I would contact a few now to start preparing. Good luck
March 31st, 2009 at 5:32 am
I think that sometimes it is the best thing that a person can do for a chld when they are not finacially stable but there are other cases when a persi should keep their belonging to him or herself.
April 1st, 2009 at 1:52 pm
I wish I could recommend some kind of counselling, hon, but I’m afraid I don’t know. I just wanted to say that I think it takes an incredible amount of courage and a deep love for your child to do something like that. Good luck!
April 1st, 2009 at 5:14 pm
I think it’s wonderful that you decided not to kill your baby! Giving it up for adoption is purely an act of love when you’re unable to take care of it! Hopefully you’re going to be involved in the process of choosing the couple who will adopt your baby. I do think that that will make the adjustment easier on you.
I don’t know what type of counseling you’ll need, but I’m sure that you’re going to need someone to talk to. Good Luck!
April 4th, 2009 at 6:00 pm
I know two girls who did that. Both for the same reason as you. Its best for the baby. You’ll have more chances when you get older. At least you didn’t abort it. You should be proud of that.
April 6th, 2009 at 10:36 am
I’ll just say go ahead do what you gotta do, because I’m young and I might end up getting pregnant this year, but I don’t want it but i can take care of it financially. But my point is just do what you gotta do
April 9th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Depending on your faith in God as well as how sure u r about giving up the baby, I think you should pray and read your bible. Giving up a baby for adoption is not easy but by praying and holding on to the fact that some1 is seeing and helping you through this. Just prepare yourself and remember dat no matter how hard u try not to become attached itz normal 4 a mother and child to have some type of connection.
April 10th, 2009 at 6:37 pm
I think is is the ultimate act of love. When you cannot provide a child you bring into the world the tools necessary to reach it’s full potential and you chose to not to force the child into cycle of poverty, hopelessness and despair you chose to truly give the child life and not just existence.
April 13th, 2009 at 8:05 am
As I social worker who works in adoption, I can tell you it is a loving and BRAVE choice. There are many many couples out there that will give your child a loving and caring home.
Are you religious? Could you talk to your minister or something.
You should find a good adoption agency, they have birth mother counseling, but first be sure this is what you feel is best for you and the baby.
FIRST GO TO A CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTER….one that supports your decision to have the baby. They should have a counselor to help you make your decision and guide you to a good agency if this is your choice.
Go to the crisis center first (be sure it is one that offers support to women having their babies…many of them are just fronts for abortion clinics and they just don’t want to say that),ask them to help you find a counselor……then IF your decision is adoption you can find a good agency.
The reason I say this is because Adoption agencies will have a conflict of interest no matter how hard they try not to. I have so many parents that if a young woman came in with a baby, I’m not sure I would actively consider her needs in front of my client. You have to be sure.
Then you decide on the type of adoption, open (where you stay in touch) semi-open (letters and photos only) closed (no contact). You should work only with a licensed agency in your state and one that allows you to help pick the family. They should also help you with medical expenses and such.
Good luck, you’re very brave.
April 16th, 2009 at 11:34 am
don’t do it..there are so many ways to make it with a baby. The government will pay for so much..chidcare..formula…rent..and the most important your education..struggle through the hard times now with your child and then when u are back on ur feet you will look back with a sense of accomplishment and pride..If you give your child up all u can do is look back at your regrets. once you give your child to somebody else you will never see the child again..you will not be mommy and u will have a hole were your heart used to be. If I can make it as a single mother with a crappy job then u can too. I am everyday thankful for my son and would give the world for him. I will never turn my back on him and he is the number one reason that I am putting myself thru college.
April 17th, 2009 at 5:18 pm
i think you are a very Strong and unselfish person you should be proud of your self in a certain way for putting the baby first, you have obviously thought hard about this, so you know what you are doing, you are going to need support from family and friends, because the feelings you will feel when the baby is born are unbelievable, so have someone there for you, ask your doctor about what kind of counsellor you should see, and good luck, do what you think is right for you and the baby.
April 20th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
I think if you know you are not financially stable and you know you couldnt take care of the baby that would be the best way…
April 23rd, 2009 at 4:54 pm
i think its an ok thing to do she is taking respoinsability for something she created and putting it in a better enviornment and also giving a chance to those that cant have kids have one of their own
April 24th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
My wife and I became parents through the loving and unselfish act of a birth mother who placed her baby with us. We are grateful in ways we cannot even express. Our son and his birth mother are literally answers to our prayers.
Talk to an adoption agency or pregnancy counselor. I am sure a government agency in your area can help. Church groups such as Catholic Charities, Lutheran Child and Family Services and Bethany can also assist you.
Please know that there are many happy and loving couples who will love this baby as much as you do.
April 26th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
fine with me, its better to give the baby to someone who can raise it , better then being on welfare and being in a nasty cycle
April 27th, 2009 at 6:18 am
its a perfectly ok idea but there is help out there. example WIC to help with formula and stuff and welfare to help with housing and paying the bills and food. oh and WIC for you until after you have the baby. and if you live in ny sate theres family health plus medicaid so you and the baby get health insurance.
April 28th, 2009 at 9:54 am
I think it takes much responsibility and more love to give up a child then it does to care for one. If you are giveing up your child because you can not take care of it you are being a wise person and thinking of the baby instead of your self.
May 1st, 2009 at 11:16 am
There are Christian organizations that will help you all the way through. Go to any Methodist or Baptist Church in your neighborhood, they will help you. All you have to do is ask.