What happens to mother who gives up her baby for adoption?
haaay itz koraay asked:
I’m not trying to be gross or anything, I’m simply wondering, what happens when a mother wants to give up her baby for adoption right after it is born? I’m asking… what happens to the mothers breast milk? Since she doesn’t have a baby to drink it, how does she get it out? Does she get it out? Again, not trying to be gross, simply wondering!
I’m starting to understand now! Thanks for everyone who is answering! I’m trying to choose a top favirote but they are all so good! :D:D
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I’m not trying to be gross or anything, I’m simply wondering, what happens when a mother wants to give up her baby for adoption right after it is born? I’m asking… what happens to the mothers breast milk? Since she doesn’t have a baby to drink it, how does she get it out? Does she get it out? Again, not trying to be gross, simply wondering!
I’m starting to understand now! Thanks for everyone who is answering! I’m trying to choose a top favirote but they are all so good! :D:D
February 9th, 2009 at 1:32 am
depressed…
February 9th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
sometimes she will be given tablets to dry up her milk.
February 10th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
its left alone and dries up on its own the same as a woman who decides not to breast feed!!
February 12th, 2009 at 11:56 am
She has to drink it herself!! Seriously this is a proven fact if she doesn’t she will get ill and maybe die.
February 12th, 2009 at 5:53 pm
well it would dry up but she my get engorged because it would not be expressed. she would just have to go through it cabbage leaves help alot
February 15th, 2009 at 7:45 am
What?..Lol thats your question??…why do think that is “gross”..the milk would stay the amount of time it supposed to in any other mother I guess..but it might probably disappear sooner because it isn’t being regularly used by a baby.
February 15th, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Her milk will eventually dry up since she has no baby nursing. The body will make milk as long as a baby/toddler is still nursing. From what I have read how long it takes to dry up can vary from woman to woman.
February 17th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
well normally they feel a bit of Relief as they know that they wont have to take care of baby for the rest of their young life.
then when all that sets in and they feel just fine and dandy they get this over whelming feeling of loss, and regret, they miss their baby,worry about their baby, wonder if they made the right choice for their baby and get depressed. they say time heals all things but giving up your baby well Theta never heals.you will constantly be wondering ,worring where it is how its doing and even if its still alive…as far as your brest milk goes the doctors will give you medications to dry you up . but what a waste because now on top of everything else the baby wont even get the benefits of a strong immune system because it didn’t get your brest milk.
so sad is it when a young mother gives birth just to give it away…
what a waste.
cheers
mystic
February 18th, 2009 at 9:45 am
The same thing that happens to mothers who decide to bottle feed their children or who stop breastfeeding as a child grows older, the milk dries up after a few days. Her breasts will just be sore until then.
February 18th, 2009 at 2:03 pm
It’s not just women who give their baby up for adoption, it’s also women who choose not to breast feed, their milk still comes in. Nipple stimulation causes milk production to continue, with no baby to stimulate it, the milk will eventually dry up. Until that happens, the breasts can get very full of milk and this can be very uncomfortable. The trick is to get some of the milk to come out to relieve the pressure, without stimulating the nipples. A warm bath or shower can get some of the milk to leak out, and I’ve heard another method. You put warm water in a pan, and lean over it and let the nipples be submerged in the water. This can also get some of the milk to come out without stimulating additional milk production.
February 19th, 2009 at 8:14 pm
When any mother gives birth and does not breast feed, the milk will dry up. If an infant is not drinking the milk or the mother is not “pumping” out her milk then her body naturally stops producing it. This happens to mothers who decide not to breast feed along with mothers who place their babies for adoption.
February 22nd, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Breast feeding works on a supply & demand system. Her breasts will be engorged and sore for a few days, but then she will stop producing milk if she is not breast feeding.
Doctors used to prescribe pills to dry up the milk, and would also “bind” the woman’s breasts with ace bandages, but that is rarely done now, thank goodness.
February 23rd, 2009 at 9:58 pm
She’ll feel completely exhausted from childbirth. She’ll feel completely and overwhelmingly invigorated by the act of childbirth and the miracle that is her child, and at the exact same time she will feel never more lonely or depressed. Her body will respond physically as if the child has died. The hormones will crash and what could easily be usually post partum depression, will instead become severely worse because there is no child to help bring her through the dark feelings.
Her breasts will swell from the pressure of the milk being made for a baby no longer there. The lack of breastfeeding will bring the statistical odds of having plugged ducts or mastitis increased.
Her mind will reel from the implications of being a mother and yet so obviously not a mother. The things people will say to her will make absolutely no sense to the plurality of what really happened.
Either she will sit and stare at walls listening to the silence and attempt to eventually do something, anything, instead of just sit… or she will self medicate the emotions away.
She will say things like “it was for the best” and “it was my choice” and yet the raw hurt that she wasn’t good enough and that she chose to be not good enough for her child will suck the life out of her.
Her family and friends will not know how to relate to her, and this moment of relinquishment forever alters those relationships.
And through it all, she is expected to be warm and grateful for any open adoption agreements, even though it rips her heart out each and every time.
Anyway, this probably wasn’t the answer you were looking for. But it is my own truth and the truth of many many others who have lost a child to relinquishment/adoption.
February 24th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
then she has to get a masectomy or make her kids or teens drink it.
February 25th, 2009 at 3:41 am
Back when my children were born (before 1990), mother’s were given a drug to stop milk production. I was given this medication to stop milk production when I stopped nursing my 1st child. Turns out these were eventually found to have side effects & taken off the market for milk cessation.
Binding the breasts (used by some) prevents engorgement, but can be painful & doesn’t prevent leakage. Breast engorgement plays a function in rapidly stopping milk production. Accumulation of milk that results in engorgement creates a chain of events that lead to cessation of the lactation process. Although engorgement is the stimulus for stopping lactation quickly, painful engorgement is not required & can be avoided. Removing just enough milk to reduce the pressure in the breasts, but not enough to empty them, will gradually diminish milk production without excessive discomfort for the mother. A mother can use manual expression or a good quality breast pump.
In addition:
*Warm showers will help induce milk leakage & reduce pressure
*Ice packs or cold cabbage leaves inside the bra will decrease local pain & swelling
*Ibuprofen or acetaminophen can be helpful for pain relief
That’s just the “technical” answer. MagicPointe gave the true emotional answer.
February 26th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
“”What happens to mother who gives up her baby for adoption?”"
As a surrendering mother from the BSE…life goes on, but you never forget. The breast milk thing is really small in comparison to the lifelong adverse affects of surrender, that impact your life negatively on a daily basis. Back in my day it was a little green capsule and ‘binding’ that stopped the flow of breastmilk. There was no magic ‘green capsule’ or ‘binding’ that would stop the tears.