What would you tell a woman thinking about placing her unborn baby for adoption?


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I’m asking this here for an unbias poll.

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50 Responses to “What would you tell a woman thinking about placing her unborn baby for adoption?”

  1. Yuba City Honker Says:
    September 24th, 2009 at 10:29 am

    I’d tell her that she is going to regret it…….. Yuba City Honker

  2. MetalBlade Says:
    September 26th, 2009 at 9:32 am

    Let your heart be your guide MetalBlade

  3. surfcomtesse Says:
    September 28th, 2009 at 7:02 pm

    who’s the daddy? surfcomtesse

  4. josh Says:
    October 1st, 2009 at 9:33 pm

    How is this going to affect the childs future?What if he comes back and ask you why you gave him up? josh

  5. t m Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 9:44 am

    do what is right t m

  6. kennysprettylittlewifey(KST) Says:
    October 2nd, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    It’s better then abortion, it’s her decision, and if she can’t give her child a good life, someone else can. kennysprettylittlewifey(KST)

  7. Bipolar Birdy Says:
    October 5th, 2009 at 4:41 am

    I would support her for it. Bipolar Birdy

  8. Anthony Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 11:38 am

    That its her choice and no one else’s Anthony

  9. Another Face Of Me Says:
    October 10th, 2009 at 4:39 pm

    To reconsider……. Another Face Of Me

  10. ▽ßøñëhëåðﾟ★｡M¦çµê££ë▽ Says:
    October 13th, 2009 at 7:26 am

    Do what’s best for your baby. ▽ßøñëhëåðﾟ★｡M¦çµê££ë▽

  11. karma_creep Says:
    October 15th, 2009 at 2:01 pm

    at least it’s not getting aborted. karma_creep

  12. rockerchick Says:
    October 18th, 2009 at 10:17 am

    as long as they weren’t gonna get an abortion rockerchick

  13. cough-it-up Says:
    October 21st, 2009 at 8:02 am

    “I’m sure that must have been a hard decision for you” cough-it-up

  14. Mujer Bonita Says:
    October 21st, 2009 at 9:49 am

    To go for it if she knows she wont be a good mom. or be able to support it. Mujer Bonita

  15. dymondsugar Says:
    October 24th, 2009 at 4:25 am

    that is good that you are not going to have an abortion dymondsugar

  16. McLovin Says:
    October 25th, 2009 at 9:22 pm

    I think that’s a good choice to consider. McLovin

  17. down~ down~ baby Says:
    October 27th, 2009 at 12:29 pm

    Do what ever is in the best intrest of the child. If you are not ready don’t keep her. down~ down~ baby

  18. Punjabi Munda Says:
    October 30th, 2009 at 11:45 am

    I tell her to keep it but if she doesnt then she could go to a fiend or an adoption center Punjabi Munda

  19. Becky B Says:
    November 2nd, 2009 at 9:32 pm

    i wouln’t care Becky B

  20. TattooedMomma Says:
    November 5th, 2009 at 2:15 am

    good for you for not getting an abortion
    someone is going to love and cherish that baby who cant have their own TattooedMomma

  21. LOAP Says:
    November 7th, 2009 at 10:44 am

    make sure there is no other way LOAP

  22. Polka Dot Alley Says:
    November 9th, 2009 at 1:41 am

    To keep the baby, and not make a mistake.

    God gave her that child, He could made someone else pregnant but He didn’t. This is your destiny, do not be a coward. Polka Dot Alley

  23. Flowergirl Says:
    November 10th, 2009 at 2:58 pm

    i wouldnt say anything Flowergirl

  24. wannabepker Says:
    November 13th, 2009 at 12:24 am

    We all know whats right..and its not adoption or abortion! You made the desicion already. wannabepker

  25. Stephanie F Says:
    November 14th, 2009 at 2:45 pm

    are you going to be able to live with the knowledge of you having a child somewhere out in the world that you dont know? Stephanie F

  26. ESCAPE THE FATE FREAK! Says:
    November 16th, 2009 at 1:32 am

    Well I would just be like “well ok it is your choice.” A woman that is thinking about putting her unborn baby for adoption is a good thing because after it is born there will already be parents that would love to welcome a baby to the family. It is better to do that than get an abortion…which i am against. ESCAPE THE FATE FREAK!

  27. David Says:
    November 16th, 2009 at 8:35 am

    i would respect that decision, because its alot better then Abortion. David

  28. E M M A Says:
    November 17th, 2009 at 1:08 pm

    I would think she is doing a responsible thing because she either does not want it or knows she could never support it and give her child the life they deserve. By giving the baby up for adoption she is giving him/her a chance to have a good life and not giving them no chance by getting an abortion. E M M A

  29. Amigurl Says:
    November 19th, 2009 at 9:22 pm

    I’d say that’s a good decision if she doesn’t think she can take care of the baby or afford to take care of it. And personally, I think adoption is a better option than abortion. Amigurl

  30. Tayler T Says:
    November 20th, 2009 at 6:04 pm

    Tell her to wait until the baby is born to decide. Chances are she will change her mind at the last minute and disappoint the adopters. Tayler T

  31. Yoda Pirate! Says:
    November 24th, 2009 at 12:54 am

    i’d tell her to make sure its what she wants to do, adoption is a final decision Yoda Pirate!

  32. ayeitsbooskie Says:
    November 25th, 2009 at 2:36 am

    If she can’t support it, then I’d tell her she’s making the right decision ayeitsbooskie

  33. Lexi Says:
    November 27th, 2009 at 7:55 pm

    thats great but you what ever you choose one of my bffs is adopted and her parents are awesome so whatever u want to do! Lexi

  34. Elisha Says:
    November 30th, 2009 at 6:28 am

    Think about all other options, talk to the father, follow your heart but remember that you will never forget!!!!!!!! Elisha

  35. canadarocks007 Says:
    December 2nd, 2009 at 10:23 pm

    If she feels she’s not able to provide adequate care for the child, then there’s nothing wrong with putting the child up for adoption. canadarocks007

  36. pinkalicousbro Says:
    December 4th, 2009 at 11:38 pm

    Tell her it’s her choice pinkalicousbro

  37. yes Says:
    December 7th, 2009 at 2:09 am

    well if she thinks she is not going to be a good mother.. then its for the best… i mean theres thousands of couples out there ready to parent a child.. yes

  38. LucyBoo Says:
    December 10th, 2009 at 8:24 am

    I believe that is the most unselfish thing a person could do. LucyBoo

  39. Tumtum Says:
    December 11th, 2009 at 12:25 pm

    I think it is the most unselfish act a woman can do. It would be an amazing, life-changing gift to a couple who isn’t able to have a baby of their own. Tumtum

  40. Misty E Says:
    December 13th, 2009 at 5:17 am

    I would definanly tell her not too unless it was an open adoption and she was very close to the people, otherwise it will be a huge regret and she will always have a huge blank whole in her heart. Misty E

  41. Kiwiblue2 Says:
    December 14th, 2009 at 11:16 am

    As long as she has explored the options available to her and she has decided this is the best option for her and the baby, then I think the couple who get her child is very lucky. Kiwiblue2

  42. ~strip~ Says:
    December 17th, 2009 at 5:29 pm

    I would tell her to make sure this is what she wants and if it is i will be there for her ~strip~

  43. Jolene M Says:
    December 17th, 2009 at 8:38 pm

    Thats great! Lots of people who are ready and really want babies can’t have them on their own and would love to adopt a baby. Some will even pay your expenses for having the baby! You could also opt for an open adoption where you still are in contact with the adoptive parents and receive pictures and stuff so you can still see the baby grow! Great alternitive to abortion. Jolene M

  44. The French Connection Says:
    December 21st, 2009 at 4:08 am

    that she was very brave,
    that it would take a lot of courage to do that The French Connection

  45. Janay Says:
    December 23rd, 2009 at 9:01 pm

    It’s her choice, and if she can’t take care of the child, she is doing a good thing. At least she’s not having an abortion or abandoning it. Janay

  46. InTeNsE<3!! Says:
    December 25th, 2009 at 2:21 am

    id say if she wouldnt be able to take care of it properly then thats a great idea at least its not an abortion InTeNsE<3!!

  47. Bluelady... Says:
    December 25th, 2009 at 10:07 pm

    I would say: At lest you chose life, and you do have a certain amount of given time to change your mind, if you think, and or feel different after wards.

    Adoption is not a bad thing, it just mainly says; Your taking care of what’s best for the both of you, in your heart of hearts.
    Your decision, and yours alone, a personal choice. Bluelady…

  48. Jason Says:
    December 26th, 2009 at 7:11 pm

    Keep the baby if you can… Unless it’s pretty clear that she will be an unfit mother then the baby is better off with her. I was/am adopted. Today I’m 35… Even as a baby and small child you know that something is different, you aren’t the same as your adoptive parents parents. Babies and children need a genetic marker- someone who is like them or they can grow up with social and intimacy issues.

    Eventually I met my birth mother (and father, but the father is not so important) and it was very traumatic. The first time I saw her I felt a crushing blow, as if I had always known her, she looked familiar to me, yet I experienced a profound sense of loss. My adoptive parents are truly great people and did the best they could for me but make no mistake- babies know who their mother is, and who their mother is not and experience loss and pain and rejection when their mother is taken away from them.

    As I said I am 35 now- and married. If you asked my wife she’d probably tell you I have intimacy issues, but I’m just doing the best I can with the hand I was dealt.

    I do know my birth mother regretted her decision for her entire life- she had me at age 15 and emotionally that is where she stayed and that is where she still is today at age 50. From what she told me she spent the next 23 years looking at kids that would be my age and wondering if she’d know me if she saw me.

    Unless your friend is a hardcore drug addict, or for some other reason an unfit mother tell her to keep her baby. Being too young or too poor, or a single mother is not a good reason to give the baby up. Jason

  49. seashell Says:
    December 30th, 2009 at 4:47 am

    I would tell that woman that she is very courageous. Society today has this mentality of keeping the baby at all costs. Well, what about doing what’s right for the child. If a woman is in a situation where she cannot provide a proper home or cannot provide the proper care for a child to give that child up, in my opinion, is the most unselfish thing she can do. It means to me that she is putting the baby’s interests first before her own. I would personally have a lot of respect for a woman like that. seashell

  50. khinzy_04 Says:
    December 31st, 2009 at 10:56 pm

    we don’t know the reason why she want her unborn baby be adopt,but we are not in a right place to judge the person,, we ourselves know that its really a mistake but we don’t have a right to stop her, all I can say to her that no matter what’s her decision hope that he well not regret it for the rest of her life,, khinzy_04

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