Comments on: What would you tell a woman thinking about placing her unborn baby for adoption?

By: khinzy_04

khinzy_04 — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 03:56:54 +0000

we don’t know the reason why she want her unborn baby be adopt,but we are not in a right place to judge the person,, we ourselves know that its really a mistake but we don’t have a right to stop her, all I can say to her that no matter what’s her decision hope that he well not regret it for the rest of her life,, khinzy_04

By: seashell

seashell — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 09:47:02 +0000

I would tell that woman that she is very courageous. Society today has this mentality of keeping the baby at all costs. Well, what about doing what’s right for the child. If a woman is in a situation where she cannot provide a proper home or cannot provide the proper care for a child to give that child up, in my opinion, is the most unselfish thing she can do. It means to me that she is putting the baby’s interests first before her own. I would personally have a lot of respect for a woman like that. seashell

By: Jason

Jason — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 00:11:36 +0000

Keep the baby if you can… Unless it’s pretty clear that she will be an unfit mother then the baby is better off with her. I was/am adopted. Today I’m 35… Even as a baby and small child you know that something is different, you aren’t the same as your adoptive parents parents. Babies and children need a genetic marker- someone who is like them or they can grow up with social and intimacy issues.

Eventually I met my birth mother (and father, but the father is not so important) and it was very traumatic. The first time I saw her I felt a crushing blow, as if I had always known her, she looked familiar to me, yet I experienced a profound sense of loss. My adoptive parents are truly great people and did the best they could for me but make no mistake- babies know who their mother is, and who their mother is not and experience loss and pain and rejection when their mother is taken away from them.

As I said I am 35 now- and married. If you asked my wife she’d probably tell you I have intimacy issues, but I’m just doing the best I can with the hand I was dealt.

I do know my birth mother regretted her decision for her entire life- she had me at age 15 and emotionally that is where she stayed and that is where she still is today at age 50. From what she told me she spent the next 23 years looking at kids that would be my age and wondering if she’d know me if she saw me.

Unless your friend is a hardcore drug addict, or for some other reason an unfit mother tell her to keep her baby. Being too young or too poor, or a single mother is not a good reason to give the baby up. Jason

By: Bluelady...

Bluelady... — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 03:07:36 +0000

I would say: At lest you chose life, and you do have a certain amount of given time to change your mind, if you think, and or feel different after wards.

Adoption is not a bad thing, it just mainly says; Your taking care of what’s best for the both of you, in your heart of hearts.
Your decision, and yours alone, a personal choice. Bluelady…

By: InTeNsE<3!!

Fri, 25 Dec 2009 07:21:10 +0000

id say if she wouldnt be able to take care of it properly then thats a great idea at least its not an abortion InTeNsE<3!!

By: Janay

Janay — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:01:27 +0000

It’s her choice, and if she can’t take care of the child, she is doing a good thing. At least she’s not having an abortion or abandoning it. Janay

By: The French Connection

The French Connection — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 09:08:38 +0000

that she was very brave,
that it would take a lot of courage to do that The French Connection

By: Jolene M

Jolene M — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 01:38:02 +0000

Thats great! Lots of people who are ready and really want babies can’t have them on their own and would love to adopt a baby. Some will even pay your expenses for having the baby! You could also opt for an open adoption where you still are in contact with the adoptive parents and receive pictures and stuff so you can still see the baby grow! Great alternitive to abortion. Jolene M

By: ~strip~

~strip~ — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 22:29:15 +0000

I would tell her to make sure this is what she wants and if it is i will be there for her ~strip~

By: Kiwiblue2

Kiwiblue2 — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:16:23 +0000

As long as she has explored the options available to her and she has decided this is the best option for her and the baby, then I think the couple who get her child is very lucky. Kiwiblue2