when you give a baby up for adoption, what paperwork or documents would the birth mom still have?
Anna asked:
i am trying to see if my son’s girlfriend lied. she said she was pregnant but gave it up when they broke up. i have asked for proof but she said she has no birth certificate or anything. would she have anything? how can i find out?
no, my son didnt sign anything cuz she put father unknown so that she could give it up without his consent is what she said.
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i am trying to see if my son’s girlfriend lied. she said she was pregnant but gave it up when they broke up. i have asked for proof but she said she has no birth certificate or anything. would she have anything? how can i find out?
no, my son didnt sign anything cuz she put father unknown so that she could give it up without his consent is what she said.
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:29 pm
She would. Ask her what adoption place she gave it too. Most likely she lied because I believe both the mother and father would have to sign the paper. meggyypooo;)
February 6th, 2010 at 10:38 pm
She might not have any paper work she would only have a birth certificate if she filed for one. I put a child up for adoption and I have no paper work on her. angel99216
February 7th, 2010 at 10:30 am
My mother wasn’t given copies of ANYTHING. Nothing. H******
February 8th, 2010 at 10:38 am
usually, mothers are given no papers. The papers are sealed.
In order to for mothers to get the papers they signed, they have to really put pressure on the agencies to release the documents. Sometimes, this doesn’t happen until the child has grown to adulthood.
Very few mothers have copies of the birth certificate. kitta
February 11th, 2010 at 5:06 am
I don’t have one shred of paperwork. snowwillow20
February 13th, 2010 at 8:49 pm
I had my son’s birth certificate and I should have had copies of the adoption paperwork relevant to me as well. Unfortunately I was coerced into surrendering so the first time I saw the paperwork was post reunion as all the information had come from my parents. Pip
February 16th, 2010 at 7:03 am
It depends on what state the child was living in when the adoption occurred. But in most cases, its rare that the birth mother would have any “proof” that she gave a child up for adoption. The birth mother may have a birth certificate (only if she applied for one). In some states, the father would be required to sign off on the adoption, but in most cases, the father is only required to sign the paper work if the couple was married. If a single mother gives a child up for adoption, and doesn’t want the father to know, all she has to do is tell the adoption agency that she doesn’t know who the father is, and then the father isn’t required to sign any thing. Sarah
February 16th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Not necessarily. I was lucky to be given a photocopy of my daughter’s birth certificate but I only recently (11 years later) got the final paperwork. It has to be requested.
But I have no idea what the situation is with your son and his ex, it could be that she is lying…. I couldn’t say either way, sorry. myst1998
February 16th, 2010 at 2:32 pm
As far as I know the birth mother is given a copy of the forms she had to sign for relinquishment.
She would not have rights to get a copy of the birth certificate after the adoption.
At least that’s Cali, and someone I know in Utah said the same there so I assumed it was a national thing. ಌSelph-Tytl’dಌ
February 18th, 2010 at 2:06 am
Don’t know if it’s different today than it was yesterday. When I left the hospital, I received zip, zilch, zero, nada. Not even a tiny scrap of paper that said I had even been in the hospital, let alone gave birth to my own child. But one thing I did walk away with…was stretchmarks from my pregnancy, those stayed with me forever. Paper can tell lies…the body doesn’t. gypsywinter
February 20th, 2010 at 1:41 am
True that the Birthmother does not get any information about the child she gives up except if she asks for copies of anything SHE signed.
However, unlike several years ago, nowadays, it is unlikely that the mother would be allowed not to name the father. The laws in Idaho are very specific for birth fathers, and I assume in other states as well. The mother must identify the father to the best of her ability. Health and Welfare takes it upon themselves to find him. If they are unable to locate him, it is required that a public notification is put in the newspaper for a certain amount of time - it was at least a year. Health and Welfare wants to know who the father is for a couple of reasons - he does have rights to his child, he does have to sign those rights away if the baby is reliquished, and health and welfare wants to be able to come after him if the circumstances ever warrant child support. The Next Page