When you give your baby up for adoption where do all that money go?
Shaquana asked:
I know that it cost alot to get a child from adoption so where do all that money go? how much do the momma get ‘cuz I’m pregnant and I am wanting a abortion but maybe adoption might be better.
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I know that it cost alot to get a child from adoption so where do all that money go? how much do the momma get ‘cuz I’m pregnant and I am wanting a abortion but maybe adoption might be better.
April 6th, 2009 at 8:28 am
The biological mother gets nothing. If she did, it would be considered selling a child. If you adopt the baby out, you won’t get paid for it. The fees paid to the adoption agencies by adoptive parents are mostly profit. Agencies are supposed to be non-profit, but by their big fat paychecks, I don’t buy that for a second.
April 7th, 2009 at 8:27 am
adoptive parents have to pay the agency a ridiculous amount of money. But when you are contacted by a woman hoping to find an adoptive family, the cost drops dramatically. When we looked into adopting it was gonna cost close to 18,000 but when we were contacted by a woman directly - it only cost us 9,000 (including travel expenses). They charge ALOT for “advertising”. But since we found the woman on our own it only cost us for the paperwork.
April 9th, 2009 at 1:38 am
adoption would be way better, because abortion doesnt make you not be a mother, it makes you a mother of a dead child. instead you could give your baby to a loving couple. and you can choose open or closed adoption and umm. i dont believe you get money, your not selling your baby. thats illegal
April 10th, 2009 at 3:35 am
I dont think the mom gets any money. I think it all goes to fund other children or the state keeps it. If you find a couple to adopt your baby they will pay your doctor bills and any food or housing you need. I have heard of people doing that.
April 11th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
The person adopting your child pays for all your medical expenses, doctor visits, travel and such. It may be different for each person, but they usually just pay for those such things. They do not give you personally any money, they don’t really “buy” your baby. You would however, be doing the right thing by giving your baby up for adoption instead of an abortion.
April 15th, 2009 at 12:54 am
well i dont know how much money goes to the mom, as far as i know its illegal to accept cash cuz thats no different than selling a human being which is illegal….adoption is absolutely the right choice but do it because you dont want to be a murderer not because you think you can make money of it. thats sick.
April 16th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
its ILLEGAL to “sale your baby” so if thats what you are thinking, forget about it. the adoptive agency may be able to help you pay bills and stuff while you are pregnant but thats about it./…please reconsider aborting your baby. there are so many people that want babies and would take excellant care of your child. also, abortions cost money, giving your baby to a family that wants it is FREE!
April 20th, 2009 at 1:22 am
if ur keeping the baby just to make money, that’s pretty sad & pathetic. Seriously, do the world a favor & keep ur damn legs shut
April 20th, 2009 at 11:46 pm
its how much DOES the mom get
anyway
unless you do a private adoption where they pay for the medical expences you get nothing why should you you are abandoning a child but that is probably for the best considering that by the way you talk its probably not going to grow up in the right circumstances and end up no good to society there are enough unwanted children out there who don’t know what love is like don’t add to it
furthermore don’t have sex if you can’t support the consequences!!! do the damn world a favor abstain
April 22nd, 2009 at 10:35 pm
go with adoption totally. just think about abortion really hard would u want tht horid thing to happen to u . THink of the suffering tht baby has to go throughg just because of u.
April 26th, 2009 at 9:01 am
No, you can’t sell your baby. The money goes to the agency that handles the adoption.
April 27th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
You will not get anything but I would like to encourage you to give your baby up for adoption.
April 29th, 2009 at 8:54 am
the lawyers get the money. please reconsider keeping your baby. it will be hard, but life is always hard anyway. but if you know that you would be an abusive or neglectfull parent, maybe. if you are thinking about getting money, you will be disappointed. they pay the doctors and hospitals directly through the lawyer. anyway, you will see that money really has no value compared to the happy face on your baby the first time it smiles at you. also, adoption lawyers will tell you anything, your baby will be with rich people, etc. once they get your signature they care nothing about you or your baby. their only objective is the money. read this book “A Death on Whitebear Lake” you sound very young. listen to your heart. if you need help, try and try till you get it. there are people who care, but it’s not the adoption lawyers. may you be blessed with much happiness!!
May 1st, 2009 at 3:14 am
The only time the “birth mom” gets money is when she is being a surrogate and is being paid to carry a baby for another couple. When you put your child up for adoption the couple adopting the baby pays for medical, some clothing and some food expenses. Some couples will even let you live with them rent free so they can be a part of the pregnancy. You will not make a profit. You would be doing a wonderful thing but it would be at the cost of your heart (emotionally) and body. Giving away a child will change you forever but so will abortion.
Money should be no part of your decision you can only do what is right for you.
May 2nd, 2009 at 12:34 pm
um…usually in the pockets of lawyers, adoption facilitators, adoption brokers, adoption counselors…basically anyone who gets paid to make sure the adoption happens…
the pregnant woman not so much. maybe some stretchmarks, hemorrhoids, milk she can’t use, and a box of sanitary pads…
and maybe, she gets a couple of maternity tops from walmart, and some money for groceries, train fare to the clinic and usually a cheesy “thank you” gift after she hands over the goods.
honestly, i strongly advise any women from accepting gifts…it’s places too much pressure to give up the baby. and most women don’t know how they’ll feel until after the baby is born and real.
ok..seriously, if you are minority (i’m assuming from your avitar that you are non-white) please be aware the any child you deliver will most likely be thought of as “special needs”, “hard to place” or “available for a lower cost.” in other words, adoption is an industry based on supply and demand. and the demand, my dear are non-minority babies.
if you are looking into adoption to make money, i’d strongly advise against it. if you are not interested in parenting…abortion might not be a bad option.
all i can say is get as much information as you can…
BTW: most adoption agencies ADVISE pregnant women to apply for medicaid. so often the money that the aparents “think” is going towards the mom…is not.
May 4th, 2009 at 4:33 pm
Well, you probably won’t get any money, but what you CAN get, is the satisfaction from knowing that you didn’t kill your child, and that you gave a child to a couple who wants one and made them very happy.
May 4th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
Your question doesn’t make sense.
May 7th, 2009 at 9:05 am
The money goes to everyone (Court, attorneys, counselors, social workers, agency owners, marketing consultants, etc.) BUT the biological parent(s).
May 9th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
i think the money goes to adoption agencies.to take care of the ”waiting children”.no,you wont get money for putting a baby for adoption thats illegal.and why would you want money anyways thats selling the poor thing.it would be better to putting it up then abort it.this is sad
May 11th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
Not much of the money goes to the natural mom. There are rules that differ by state as to what is allowed. Generally medical expenses can be covered, maternity clothes, some allowance to help with food and rent. I don’t think you would come out ahead financially. It is just to help offset the cost of having a child.
Most of the money goes to the following:
- agency for homestudy (background check, interviews etc to determine if the person/couple is likely to be a good parent)
- agency classes about adoption and what to expect when raising an adopted child
- legal fees for terminating the rights of the natural parents
- outreach/advertising to find women who are considering placing children for adoption
- salaries for adoption agency staff (social workers etc)
- post placement visit to the home after the child is there to ensure things are going smoothly (required by most states)
- travel for adoptive parents if the natural mother is not local (we stayed out of state for 10 days)
I think our adoption cost about $15,000 to $18,000, and less than $2000 went to my daughter’s natural mom.
May 11th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
The momma don’t get didily squat.