who should i give my baby for adoption to?
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i decided not to have an abortion.. i had a question previously.. and i been getting a few nice couples who would like to adopt my baby..
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i decided not to have an abortion.. i had a question previously.. and i been getting a few nice couples who would like to adopt my baby..
but i have my worries.. i do not want to my child out in a government adoption centre for fear he/she might not be even be given a proper family.
can someone accept a half white/half asian baby..
i also have a fear after committing to the couple.. i might be bonded with the child and decided raise my child..
what should i do ..
it was conceived from rape
there were thoughts of abortion but its been almost 16 weeks.
September 23rd, 2009 at 1:00 am
Either abortion or keeping the child. http://www.proofficesupply.com/england-new-office-supply.htm
September 25th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
Abortion. http://www.bestdrumshop.com/world-percussion-84959
September 28th, 2009 at 12:28 pm
i’d say keep the baby! >< but if there's good reasons why you cant
then give it to who you TRULY TRUST WITH YOUR LIFE AND IS WILLING TO CARE FOR THE BABY NO MATTER WHAT && TREAT HIM/HER AS IF HE/SHE IS THEIR CHILD.
Hope I helped. Good lucks. :3 http://www.healthstorebargains.com/srch/srch.php?q=xtreme
October 1st, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Congratulations on your decision to give your baby a new start and a wonderful life!!!!
Maybe your friends or someone you know would love to take care of your baby or who knows maybe you’d love to take care of it yourself!
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October 2nd, 2009 at 12:42 pm
if i was you. id talk to family and see if they would accept the responsibility of raiseing it. that way the child is sitll in the family and you can still see it compared to no rights what so ever. and if that dont work. talk to close friends. if that dont work. talk to other familys and get to know them and go from there..
good luck hope all goes well. http://www.resumeminers.com/online-degree/online-degree-certificates.htm
October 3rd, 2009 at 8:05 pm
Be responsible and raise the baby yourself, it needs its momma! You got pregnant so you should deal with it!! http://www.resumeminers.com/student-loans/consolidating-college-student-loans.htm
October 4th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Me?
Half white, and half asian people are beautiful. Do you live on the West Coast? There are a lot of asian white people. http://www.felinehealthguide.com/feline-aids.htm
October 6th, 2009 at 11:59 am
Its your child I feel you should raise your baby because your did the same did they? also say your child becomes a famous movie star you can’t just go running back in there life feel me so raise the baby http://www.businessbrokersguide.com/colorado-business-broker.htm
October 7th, 2009 at 5:52 am
Definitely spend more time with both couples to find out what they’re like. It’s better to meet the people and get to know and trust them instead of just handing it over to a complete stranger. Your heart and gut will tell you when something is not right. Also, I think it’s pretty common for women to decide to keep their baby even after agreeing to adoption because of attachment. I think the adoptive parents just need to be aware of that risk. http://www.bigjobtools.com/srch/srch.php?q=Tires
October 8th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
good for you for not having an abortion!!!
well, i am sure many people would love to have your baby!
mabey you could tell the couple about you fears..
if there is a reason you think the baby should be adopted other than “you dont want one” i really think you should keep it! http://www.doggydisease.com/symptom-of-liver-disease-in-dog.htm
October 12th, 2009 at 12:37 am
It’s your child…. no matter what comes… you should take care of your child and give that child a proper education. for that you have to work hard…
You are toggling between giving away your baby and raising the child yourself… if you have the slightest affection towards your child you’l raise it. http://www.ecohomefashion.com/bath-accessories-61
October 13th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Your baby would be accepted no matter what the race is so do not worry about that. As long as you go through a legit adoption agency you will be allowed to meet possible parents for your child and be able to choose who you would like your baby to go to. Also if you change your mind and decide you would like to keep your child before you sign your rights over it will be ok and they will understand. Some people are nice enough to let the birth mother stay in the child’s life. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities/clinical-sciences-degree.htm
October 16th, 2009 at 1:19 am
Many people would love to raise your baby…It doesn’t matter the nationality. Unless you want the parents to be Asian as well? I think you can do that too.
As for bonding with your child and deciding to raise it…I think you have 3 to 6 months to change your mind. Check your local state laws. Or, if you’re going through an agency…they should have told you this stuff already. If they haven’t, you should consider changing your agency.
My point is, right now everything is up to you. Don’t sign anything until you’re sure. Good luck to you. http://www.legaldot.net/law/divorce/online-divorce-forms.htm
October 16th, 2009 at 11:31 pm
***EDIT*** I just read your additional info. My heart just aches for you. Please contact your local district attorneys office or a rape crisis center for free counseling for victims of violent crime. Maybe this will clarify some of the confusion you are going through. God bless and You will be in my thoughts
Some wonderful family will love a “mixed race” baby. A close friend adopted such a child and her/the families life has been brightened forever.
Go to a private adoption agency, where you can chose your adoptive family, interview, set terms of future contact, etc. And when you interviewed everyone at one agency and still haven’t found the right fit, go to another agency. So many families are waiting for just such a special baby. The ball is completely in your court.
Only you can decide to raise your child or not. It is such a personal decision. Follow your heart and mind. You will make the best decision for you. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/impact-wrenches-4355
October 19th, 2009 at 8:06 am
Talk to any adoption agency–they NEVER just give a baby to a couple. Trust me, I’ve known several people that have gone through the process of tyring to get a baby and it’s very hard to get approved first and then be selected to get a baby. People that are willing to adopt a baby are not going to care if it’s half white/half asian–I’ve known two couples who’ve paid thousands of dollars adopting from China. Discuss with the adoption agency all of your concerns and try different organizations. I know there’s adoption agencies that are church-based organizations such as Lutheran or Catholic.
There are different types of adoptions, and the organization can talk to you more about whether you would want to choose the parents. http://www.myislandholiday.com/big-island-vacation-rental.htm
October 22nd, 2009 at 12:04 pm
whoever wants a baby will take care of it. alot of females are infertile and if you know your baby isnt safe, call the cops on them:)
u wont have to raise your child they wanted it they got it. It isnt yours its theirs! http://www.telescopebuyingguide.com/history-of-telescope.htm
October 25th, 2009 at 3:15 am
I utterly disagree with anyone saying “you were responsible enough to have sex, be responsible enough to raise the baby.” You clearly *weren’t* responsible, (assuming of course that this was willing sex), so I’d suggest stepping up now and being mature and responsible and getting help in finding a complete family (2 parents who are committed to each other and to raising a healthy, happy child) who will take your child and love it and give it a better opportunity in life than you probably can.
As much as you might love your baby, as much as you “might” bond with it, love is not enough. Good luck. http://www.quezalteca.com/
October 25th, 2009 at 6:54 am
Asian/white babies are gorgeous. ANyways, how old are yoU??????? If you are mature and stable enough, I think you should raise it. However, giving it up for adoption is a good second choice, too. I would personally start interviewing families, visiting their homes, get to know them during your pregnancy, and see if they’re suitable. http://www.bigjobtools.com/srch/srch.php?q=Porter+Cable
October 28th, 2009 at 11:11 am
There are plenty of agencies around, and they’re usually good about doing background checks on potential adopters. It wouldn’t hurt to look into one and perhaps contact couples through them. If you already know couples who are interested - talk to them, get to know them, find out what life for the baby would be like with them. At the same time, talk to your family and friends about what it might be like to raise this child yourself. And don’t commit to anything until you’re very, very sure. The actual birth and seeing the baby can have a profound effect, so keep that in mind.
Best wishes. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/hand-trucks-4401
October 29th, 2009 at 4:12 am
Can you speak to an adoption agency? I don’t know much about this but I was under the impression that you could read up about various couples and speak to them even and the adoption agency checks them out, etc. and then you’ll know where you baby is going. You can also negotiate an open adoption if you want. And I’m pretty sure after the baby has been adopted by a family then they can’t just return it. if not, it would be hard giving your child up to other people, but it seems like you’re not ready to raise it yourself. You may feel different after the actual birth though, a lot of women do, but sad as it is for adoptive parents I’m sure they’re ready for that possibility. good luck. http://www.resumeminers.com/Job-Search.htm
October 29th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
Blessings to you for choosing life for your baby.
If you fear the screening process that agencies do, you can certainly screen adoptive parents yourself and opt for a private/independent adoption in which no agencies are involved. Get to know the potential parents well before you make your choice. If the person/couple is not an open book, it may not be a good match for your situation as it sounds like you want to know the family that adopts your baby. We are an adoptive family and are totally open. We get together several times a month with our daughters Grandma and siblings. We have nothing to hide. Those that do concern me and should concern you as well.
If a family that truly wants to adopt a baby cannot accept a child based on race, they have no business adopting. It becomes all about them at that point and should only be about the child. Our family adopts across all racial “lines”. A child is a child…all fearfully and wonderfully made.
You are right to think that you may bond with your baby and want to raise him/her. A potential adoptive family needs to realize this as well. The best thing you can do is to seriously take a look at things and decide if you can properly raise the baby and give it all of the things it needs. It’s so very hard but the first requirement of parenting is to put your children’s needs above your own. It’s not always easy - but it is necessary.
As to what you should do, pray about it in earnest. Seek God’s will for your life and for your baby. If you choose to place your baby in adoption, seek a family that is open, honest and that cares for your feelings and well being as well as that of the baby.
Best wishes to you. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities-by-degree-program.htm