Comments on: who should i give my baby for adoption to? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/ Tue, 22 May 2012 13:50:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Gottalovekids http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5394 Gottalovekids Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:52:00 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5394 Blessings to you for choosing life for your baby. If you fear the screening process that agencies do, you can certainly screen adoptive parents yourself and opt for a private/independent adoption in which no agencies are involved. Get to know the potential parents well before you make your choice. If the person/couple is not an open book, it may not be a good match for your situation as it sounds like you want to know the family that adopts your baby. We are an adoptive family and are totally open. We get together several times a month with our daughters Grandma and siblings. We have nothing to hide. Those that do concern me and should concern you as well. If a family that truly wants to adopt a baby cannot accept a child based on race, they have no business adopting. It becomes all about them at that point and should only be about the child. Our family adopts across all racial "lines". A child is a child...all fearfully and wonderfully made. You are right to think that you may bond with your baby and want to raise him/her. A potential adoptive family needs to realize this as well. The best thing you can do is to seriously take a look at things and decide if you can properly raise the baby and give it all of the things it needs. It's so very hard but the first requirement of parenting is to put your children's needs above your own. It's not always easy - but it is necessary. As to what you should do, pray about it in earnest. Seek God's will for your life and for your baby. If you choose to place your baby in adoption, seek a family that is open, honest and that cares for your feelings and well being as well as that of the baby. Best wishes to you. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities-by-degree-program.htm Blessings to you for choosing life for your baby.

If you fear the screening process that agencies do, you can certainly screen adoptive parents yourself and opt for a private/independent adoption in which no agencies are involved. Get to know the potential parents well before you make your choice. If the person/couple is not an open book, it may not be a good match for your situation as it sounds like you want to know the family that adopts your baby. We are an adoptive family and are totally open. We get together several times a month with our daughters Grandma and siblings. We have nothing to hide. Those that do concern me and should concern you as well.

If a family that truly wants to adopt a baby cannot accept a child based on race, they have no business adopting. It becomes all about them at that point and should only be about the child. Our family adopts across all racial “lines”. A child is a child…all fearfully and wonderfully made.

You are right to think that you may bond with your baby and want to raise him/her. A potential adoptive family needs to realize this as well. The best thing you can do is to seriously take a look at things and decide if you can properly raise the baby and give it all of the things it needs. It’s so very hard but the first requirement of parenting is to put your children’s needs above your own. It’s not always easy - but it is necessary.

As to what you should do, pray about it in earnest. Seek God’s will for your life and for your baby. If you choose to place your baby in adoption, seek a family that is open, honest and that cares for your feelings and well being as well as that of the baby.

Best wishes to you. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities-by-degree-program.htm

]]> By: Harriet http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5393 Harriet Thu, 29 Oct 2009 09:12:35 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5393 Can you speak to an adoption agency? I don't know much about this but I was under the impression that you could read up about various couples and speak to them even and the adoption agency checks them out, etc. and then you'll know where you baby is going. You can also negotiate an open adoption if you want. And I'm pretty sure after the baby has been adopted by a family then they can't just return it. if not, it would be hard giving your child up to other people, but it seems like you're not ready to raise it yourself. You may feel different after the actual birth though, a lot of women do, but sad as it is for adoptive parents I'm sure they're ready for that possibility. good luck. http://www.resumeminers.com/Job-Search.htm Can you speak to an adoption agency? I don’t know much about this but I was under the impression that you could read up about various couples and speak to them even and the adoption agency checks them out, etc. and then you’ll know where you baby is going. You can also negotiate an open adoption if you want. And I’m pretty sure after the baby has been adopted by a family then they can’t just return it. if not, it would be hard giving your child up to other people, but it seems like you’re not ready to raise it yourself. You may feel different after the actual birth though, a lot of women do, but sad as it is for adoptive parents I’m sure they’re ready for that possibility. good luck. http://www.resumeminers.com/Job-Search.htm

]]> By: Rhea http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5392 Rhea Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:11:45 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5392 There are plenty of agencies around, and they're usually good about doing background checks on potential adopters. It wouldn't hurt to look into one and perhaps contact couples through them. If you already know couples who are interested - talk to them, get to know them, find out what life for the baby would be like with them. At the same time, talk to your family and friends about what it might be like to raise this child yourself. And don't commit to anything until you're very, very sure. The actual birth and seeing the baby can have a profound effect, so keep that in mind. Best wishes. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/hand-trucks-4401 There are plenty of agencies around, and they’re usually good about doing background checks on potential adopters. It wouldn’t hurt to look into one and perhaps contact couples through them. If you already know couples who are interested - talk to them, get to know them, find out what life for the baby would be like with them. At the same time, talk to your family and friends about what it might be like to raise this child yourself. And don’t commit to anything until you’re very, very sure. The actual birth and seeing the baby can have a profound effect, so keep that in mind.

Best wishes. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/hand-trucks-4401

]]> By: Dani http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5391 Dani Sun, 25 Oct 2009 11:54:38 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5391 Asian/white babies are gorgeous. ANyways, how old are yoU??????? If you are mature and stable enough, I think you should raise it. However, giving it up for adoption is a good second choice, too. I would personally start interviewing families, visiting their homes, get to know them during your pregnancy, and see if they're suitable. http://www.bigjobtools.com/srch/srch.php?q=Porter+Cable Asian/white babies are gorgeous. ANyways, how old are yoU??????? If you are mature and stable enough, I think you should raise it. However, giving it up for adoption is a good second choice, too. I would personally start interviewing families, visiting their homes, get to know them during your pregnancy, and see if they’re suitable. http://www.bigjobtools.com/srch/srch.php?q=Porter+Cable

]]> By: meg http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5390 meg Sun, 25 Oct 2009 08:15:36 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5390 I utterly disagree with anyone saying "you were responsible enough to have sex, be responsible enough to raise the baby." You clearly *weren't* responsible, (assuming of course that this was willing sex), so I'd suggest stepping up now and being mature and responsible and getting help in finding a complete family (2 parents who are committed to each other and to raising a healthy, happy child) who will take your child and love it and give it a better opportunity in life than you probably can. As much as you might love your baby, as much as you "might" bond with it, love is not enough. Good luck. http://www.quezalteca.com/ I utterly disagree with anyone saying “you were responsible enough to have sex, be responsible enough to raise the baby.” You clearly *weren’t* responsible, (assuming of course that this was willing sex), so I’d suggest stepping up now and being mature and responsible and getting help in finding a complete family (2 parents who are committed to each other and to raising a healthy, happy child) who will take your child and love it and give it a better opportunity in life than you probably can.

As much as you might love your baby, as much as you “might” bond with it, love is not enough. Good luck. http://www.quezalteca.com/

]]> By: Henryka J http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5389 Henryka J Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:04:20 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5389 whoever wants a baby will take care of it. alot of females are infertile and if you know your baby isnt safe, call the cops on them:) u wont have to raise your child they wanted it they got it. It isnt yours its theirs! http://www.telescopebuyingguide.com/history-of-telescope.htm whoever wants a baby will take care of it. alot of females are infertile and if you know your baby isnt safe, call the cops on them:)

u wont have to raise your child they wanted it they got it. It isnt yours its theirs! http://www.telescopebuyingguide.com/history-of-telescope.htm

]]> By: April W http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5388 April W Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:06:34 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5388 Talk to any adoption agency--they NEVER just give a baby to a couple. Trust me, I've known several people that have gone through the process of tyring to get a baby and it's very hard to get approved first and then be selected to get a baby. People that are willing to adopt a baby are not going to care if it's half white/half asian--I've known two couples who've paid thousands of dollars adopting from China. Discuss with the adoption agency all of your concerns and try different organizations. I know there's adoption agencies that are church-based organizations such as Lutheran or Catholic. There are different types of adoptions, and the organization can talk to you more about whether you would want to choose the parents. http://www.myislandholiday.com/big-island-vacation-rental.htm Talk to any adoption agency–they NEVER just give a baby to a couple. Trust me, I’ve known several people that have gone through the process of tyring to get a baby and it’s very hard to get approved first and then be selected to get a baby. People that are willing to adopt a baby are not going to care if it’s half white/half asian–I’ve known two couples who’ve paid thousands of dollars adopting from China. Discuss with the adoption agency all of your concerns and try different organizations. I know there’s adoption agencies that are church-based organizations such as Lutheran or Catholic.
There are different types of adoptions, and the organization can talk to you more about whether you would want to choose the parents. http://www.myislandholiday.com/big-island-vacation-rental.htm

]]> By: Kate http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5387 Kate Sat, 17 Oct 2009 04:31:09 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5387 ***EDIT*** I just read your additional info. My heart just aches for you. Please contact your local district attorneys office or a rape crisis center for free counseling for victims of violent crime. Maybe this will clarify some of the confusion you are going through. God bless and You will be in my thoughts :) Some wonderful family will love a "mixed race" baby. A close friend adopted such a child and her/the families life has been brightened forever. Go to a private adoption agency, where you can chose your adoptive family, interview, set terms of future contact, etc. And when you interviewed everyone at one agency and still haven't found the right fit, go to another agency. So many families are waiting for just such a special baby. The ball is completely in your court. Only you can decide to raise your child or not. It is such a personal decision. Follow your heart and mind. You will make the best decision for you. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/impact-wrenches-4355 ***EDIT*** I just read your additional info. My heart just aches for you. Please contact your local district attorneys office or a rape crisis center for free counseling for victims of violent crime. Maybe this will clarify some of the confusion you are going through. God bless and You will be in my thoughts :)
Some wonderful family will love a “mixed race” baby. A close friend adopted such a child and her/the families life has been brightened forever.

Go to a private adoption agency, where you can chose your adoptive family, interview, set terms of future contact, etc. And when you interviewed everyone at one agency and still haven’t found the right fit, go to another agency. So many families are waiting for just such a special baby. The ball is completely in your court.

Only you can decide to raise your child or not. It is such a personal decision. Follow your heart and mind. You will make the best decision for you. http://www.greattoolsusa.com/impact-wrenches-4355

]]> By: PK http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5386 PK Fri, 16 Oct 2009 06:19:58 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5386 Many people would love to raise your baby...It doesn't matter the nationality. Unless you want the parents to be Asian as well? I think you can do that too. As for bonding with your child and deciding to raise it...I think you have 3 to 6 months to change your mind. Check your local state laws. Or, if you're going through an agency...they should have told you this stuff already. If they haven't, you should consider changing your agency. My point is, right now everything is up to you. Don't sign anything until you're sure. Good luck to you. http://www.legaldot.net/law/divorce/online-divorce-forms.htm Many people would love to raise your baby…It doesn’t matter the nationality. Unless you want the parents to be Asian as well? I think you can do that too.

As for bonding with your child and deciding to raise it…I think you have 3 to 6 months to change your mind. Check your local state laws. Or, if you’re going through an agency…they should have told you this stuff already. If they haven’t, you should consider changing your agency.

My point is, right now everything is up to you. Don’t sign anything until you’re sure. Good luck to you. http://www.legaldot.net/law/divorce/online-divorce-forms.htm

]]> By: boapeace_b http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/comment-page-1/#comment-5385 boapeace_b Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:51:09 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/who-should-i-give-my-baby-for-adoption-to/#comment-5385 Your baby would be accepted no matter what the race is so do not worry about that. As long as you go through a legit adoption agency you will be allowed to meet possible parents for your child and be able to choose who you would like your baby to go to. Also if you change your mind and decide you would like to keep your child before you sign your rights over it will be ok and they will understand. Some people are nice enough to let the birth mother stay in the child's life. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities/clinical-sciences-degree.htm Your baby would be accepted no matter what the race is so do not worry about that. As long as you go through a legit adoption agency you will be allowed to meet possible parents for your child and be able to choose who you would like your baby to go to. Also if you change your mind and decide you would like to keep your child before you sign your rights over it will be ok and they will understand. Some people are nice enough to let the birth mother stay in the child’s life. http://www.resumeminers.com/universities/clinical-sciences-degree.htm

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