why do some adults suggest that teens who are pregnant give their baby up 4 adoption? or abortion?
+Black babe named Misa+ asked:
like some teens can take care of a child. and generalized that just because one teen they have seen on tv as a bad figure, decides that all are..
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like some teens can take care of a child. and generalized that just because one teen they have seen on tv as a bad figure, decides that all are..
like me personaly, if i was to have a baby right now, i wouldnot waste my 9 months of pain, and pregnancy just to give it away for adoption… id find the best wa i can to make it for the both of us =)
February 6th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
We want teen mothers to make the decision based on the best interest of the child.
February 10th, 2009 at 2:12 am
Saying “I would find the best way” is MUCH easier said then done.
Abortion is sometimes done because some teens can actually die from early pregnancy, depending. Adoption is chosen over income and parental ability.
For most teens who do either, it is because they have no other viable choice.
February 12th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
i agree totally. although sometimes it really is best. if i were to get pregnant right now, we wouldn’t be able to afford another kid.
id have to give him/her up for adoption, no choice.
February 14th, 2009 at 3:18 am
they think thats the solution to their problem nd they also think the girl isnt goin to b responsible enough to do it on her own.
February 14th, 2009 at 6:29 am
i do not believe in abortion
and if you are mature enough to have sex then you should be mature to have that baby
i mean if i had a baby i would not give it up
that is part of you and your partner
its not right to give up your baby
if you cant take care of the baby then you should have thought about that before having sex.
February 15th, 2009 at 11:01 am
because they are too young, but also because they might not be trustworthy.
But i don’t really know.
February 15th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
You are obviously more mature than most. The reality is that when children have children, there’s often a lot of suffering.
February 16th, 2009 at 11:16 am
There are three options, adoption, abortion or keeping the baby.
The statistics show that children of parents with little education suffer lifelong consequences. So, many teens who go through nine months of pregnancy don’t want to endure all of that just to give their baby a crummy life. They focus on what is best for the baby rather on what is best for them and they give their baby to a loving well-prepared adult. In most cases, they can be proud of their decision.
February 17th, 2009 at 8:47 am
money, mom don’t want to take care of it ,,, you need schooling etc , you kinda like waste your life at such a young age….
February 20th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
because people jump to conclusions way to fast. they dont know the teens story or anything. they automatically think she is a whore or a slut. but what if she had low self esteem? or was presurred or raped and didnt believe in abortion? what if that teen was hurt at home and thought someone actually loved her and had sex and got pregnant?
alot people think wrong about teen pregnancys
February 23rd, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Adults should try to teach their teens how to keep their legs closed and their weeny in their pants before teaching them how to go get abortions and adoptions…
February 26th, 2009 at 5:18 am
First of Joshua R - Pregnant and a teenager does not endanger your health at all.
Do your research- If a three year old can successfully give birth to a healthy baby then a teenager can too (and yes there was a 3 year old who had a baby.)
They say this because they don’t want kids raising kids. Enjoy your life while your young- and they want the best for the baby and sometimes giving a baby to a couple who cannot have their own they can do a better job raising the baby then the own teen mother can plus the mother can still have her childhood.
February 27th, 2009 at 8:22 am
some people think that because teens who get pregnant are to young and immature to raise a child but i totally disagree, a 16/17 year old could do a much better job than half of the mothers i’ve seen, i had my first child a few weeks after my 18th birthday and i wouldn’t have ever taught about giving him up
February 28th, 2009 at 8:33 am
i know i feel the same way. i got pregnant at 19 and a freshman in college. that is not as young as people today, but still i cant even count the people who told me to abort the babies are put them up for adoption. they were triplets. i couldve never done that i wanted to keep them and they are now very happy and healthy 5 year olds and i could never imagine my life without them
February 28th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
We want teen mothers to make decisions to what is best for the child.
And very, very few of us suggest abortions.
March 3rd, 2009 at 6:22 am
because people automatically assume that teens are going to make terrible parents
which is sometimes the case I guess
butbthere are also some teens who make better mommies than 30 year olds
I personally would keep the baby If I ever did get pregnant at this age..abortion is COMPLETELY out of the question for me
and there is no way I could carry a baby to term and then give it up like its no big deal
But thats just me
I know I’d make a great mama
March 5th, 2009 at 11:32 am
when a girl gets pregnant when she is a young teen, it is usually unplanned. girls lives can be ruined. while i wouldnt suggest abortion as the best answer, it truly is up to the woman carrying the baby.
i just wish everyone would use pretection.
its a shame that there is so many abortions in the world.
people need to think about the consequences before they have sex
March 8th, 2009 at 1:48 am
basically if youre a teen, you most likely dont have enough money to raise a child, most teens dont live on their own and couldnt even if they tried.
adoption is the best way to go if you cant afford to raise a child.
abortion is crazy to me because if i aborted a baby at 6 months it would be perfectly legal but if i had a premature baby at 6 months and killed it i would most likly go to jail.
March 11th, 2009 at 12:52 am
There are a large number of teens who are ill-equipped to deal with the emotional, financial, and physical demands of having and caring for a baby. Having a baby is hard under the best of circumstances, and when you are still a child yourself, unmarried, haven’t even finished high school, have no prospects of getting a job that can support you and your child, and have to rely on your parents and/or the government to help raise your child, those are certainly circumstances that are less than ideal.
Teenage mothers and their children are at huge risks for poor life outcomes, so it’s not necessarily the worst thing in the world to consider giving your baby up to a couple who can provide a better life for it, and delaying parenthood until you are better able to handle it. Choosing what is best for your unborn baby is a very selfless thing to do.
March 11th, 2009 at 5:49 am
because adults now a days are narrow minded and can’t see teens “properly” raising babies. Even though some teens do a better job then adults!
March 13th, 2009 at 11:30 am
hey think it’ll be better for the child and the mother but i dont agree with it always.. some people cant bring themselves to do that… like i know i couldnt do that but my mother put me up for adoption…and im glad she did cuz i know i have a better life now than i would have with her,
March 16th, 2009 at 4:27 am
It’s not that they can’t take care of the child, it’s just that they can’t take care of the child by themselves. Pregnant teens don’t own a house of their own, usually, and they don’t exactly have a job that can pay the bills. Yes, bills. There are life insurance bills, check up bills, hospital bills, there’s money you pay for clothing, food, medication, there’s a lot of things to pay for. Another thing is that teens aren’t fully matured yet. they may be more mature than middle schoolers, but teens still have an attitude, for loss of a better word. Usually, they cannot handle this on their own. Yes, they may have the father’s help, and the father’s parents’ help, and they may have their own parents’ help, but parenting is a life experience that adults go through, and no one can hold your hand all the way through it.
March 18th, 2009 at 1:54 am
Abortion is often seen as an option for pregnant teens as most teens body are not ready for the strain of childbirth and it can kill girls.
Adoption is used so that teens’ lives are not focused around the baby and they can finish high school and go to college without having to support a child.
March 20th, 2009 at 6:32 am
Very few people would suggest that a teen have an abortion as this is not birthcontrol. If you consider yourself responsible enough to be having sex then you should handle the consequences. Reality check babies are very expensive it is difficult for a teenager to make enough money to support a child when they temselves need support from their family to get an education and get ahead in life. A new baby will cost about $40 a week on formulas, $50 a week in pampers, $30 a week in miscellanious items like wipies, baby products, detergent etc. Day care in Florida costs an average of $135 a week for you to be able to work and make enough money to cover rent, gas, electricity food and other expenses. Do the math. Most teenage mothers end up on welfare and in need of government help like WIC adn foodstamps unable to provide a great education for their children. Teenagers need to think hard if they want to make their babies struggle in a hard situation or give them a chance for a better life by placing them in adoption. The best interest of the child is what is important and I think most teenagers are more concerned about what they look like, who likes them, what clothes they should wear to a party, when is the next party etc and are unable to provide for themselves financially much less for a child. There are a lot of families that can take care of those babies and give them what they deserve a loving home where they are wanted and loved with enough stability for a child to grow up with a good self image and self worth and with enough economic advantages to realize any dream they may have. Raising a child is not easy, think about it before oyu have unprotected sex.