Why do you think women can have an abortion, give up a baby for adoption, leave a baby at a hospital ect?
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Why do you think a woman can make these choices.
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Why do you think a woman can make these choices.
Is it that a woman is not financially ready or mentally ready to have a child.
Why do you think they can and should make these choices
This is not a judgment question. I would like to know why a women would be making these choices. Maybe the word ‘can’ was the wrong word.
February 2nd, 2009 at 12:03 am
As a male I don’t know exactly how these women feel but they are usually desperate. It’s not usually about money.
February 3rd, 2009 at 7:41 am
heyy thats a good question!! they probably either too young, not financially or mentally ready, or it was all just a “mistake”…any woman can have a baby…but not all can be a mother…
February 4th, 2009 at 6:44 pm
You sound like you think someone should make decisions for other people? Would you like others to make your choices for you and your body and life?. Yes alot of people get abortions when they should not. I feel people worry about what other people do to much. I feel if we all worried about ourselves more and worried about others lease we would be better off. Would you like something to worry about? Worry about all our men and women being killed in this Bush War
February 5th, 2009 at 4:07 am
I think she can make these decisions because she has to go through the pregnancy, and she should be able to make decisions about her health on her own. in a perfect world, and in healthy relationships, the father would also be included in the decision making process.
I also think that if a woman is pregnant, then she has to make these choices, ready or not. I also think that unless they are directly related to me, or effect me in some way, it is not my business. I cant presume to pass judgement on every pregnant woman in the world. not only is the very idea arrogant, but its time consuming and i have better things to do.
edit: if your question is more “why would a woman make this choice” then the answer is a bit different, but not by much. I personally dont care why she makes the choice she makes, or even which choice it is. all i care about is that she have choices.
February 6th, 2009 at 5:34 am
because :
A. its her body. a man can’t die or suffer changes to their body when they become a father. women can and do.
B. why shouldn’t she be able to give it to a safe moderate? is the alternative, abortion or killing your child, any better? make up your mind.
A person SHOULD do whatever is best for themselves and their family. we have no say in someone else’s choice.
February 7th, 2009 at 3:42 am
I think there are many reasons people in general are not ready to be parents. Many people are not ready. This often happens with men as well, however they just leave, encourage abortion or give up their rights. There are a few though who are either to selfish or too stupid and go ahead and have children when they are not ready for them and still change little to nothing about themselves and their lives to become ready.
February 7th, 2009 at 10:34 am
Most women put a lot of thought into why they would make those kinds of choices.
Every situation is different and generalizing it into one simple explanation is insufficient.
A woman’s body, a woman’s choice.
February 9th, 2009 at 2:56 am
Abortion is a woman’s right. I believe in freedom of choice.
February 12th, 2009 at 10:12 am
The problem is that it’s more than just ‘women’ making these kinds of choices. Too many ‘girls’ 12 to 17 are being put in a position to make these choices. They and their boyfriends are not emotionally or financially ready for a real relationship, much less parenthood. I can’t tell you how many parents I know who are raising their grandchildren because their daughters got pregnant before their high school graduation and they don’t believe in abortion. It’s epidemic in my area of the country where abstinence-only is taught in the schools in place of real sex education.
Abandoning a baby in a dumpster or at a fire station is often done by young teens who hide their pregnancies from their parents.
EDIT to add: No matter the choice there are hard, life-long repercussions from the choice and the best we can do is make sure these teens (both boys and girls) understand the gravity of their choices. And to keep fighting to get (or keep) sex education in the schools.
EDIT: I don’t think your question is worded in a judgmental way at all. I feel you are truly trying to understand the mind-set of women/girls who makes these choices. I hope I’m right.
February 15th, 2009 at 7:04 am
it cud b different reasons 4 different women but wotever the reason it must be sooo hard. i had an unplanned pregnancy at a young age and was devastated about it but could go thro with an abortion now i kno i made the right decision 2 have her my kids r the best thing in my life no matter wot. but every woman is different
February 17th, 2009 at 6:34 pm
I think they are really hard choices to make. Sometimes, women in already desperate situations find themselves pregnant.
They aren’t emotionally ready to raise a child. They are financially able to support the child. They are teenagers too scared to tell their parents. They are unwed and their family disapproves.
I have never had to make a decision like that, but I know several girls who did. One chose adoption, one abortion, a few chose to keep the kids and make a go of it. Not one ever said “It was the easiest decision of my life”.
February 20th, 2009 at 1:38 am
Yeah, but we have choices too! either we “keep it in our pants” (like if we are more responsible than women in pregnancy scenarios), pay child support (or support the child if we re in a relationship), or go to debtor’s prison.
February 21st, 2009 at 12:08 am
Poverty
Mental illness
Age
Drug addiction
Prostitute
These are just some examples, not an all-inclusive list.
Is this what you were looking for?
February 24th, 2009 at 3:48 am
Desperation, nobody wants an unplanned pregnancy but if it does happen there are choices. I would not want the government or anyone else to tell me what to do with my body. It is the womans life you are talking about and it should be her decision.
February 26th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
i will say that they have no chose in what else to do, they have no support from the father, no support from parents and families and friends
March 1st, 2009 at 9:55 pm
I don’t know how anyone could do it. I think that, if a woman is not ready to be a mother, she should not risk becoming a mother by being sexually active. It is not fair to the baby by any means. Same goes for men, really - if they aren’t ready to step up and be a dad they should control themselves. But people want to have their fun and not have to be responsible for the consequences. And so we have over a million abortions every year (and only around 5% are done for medical reasons or rape victims), we have babies abandoned at the hospital and left to die in dumpsters.
Adoption, though, that is altogether different. Adoption is incredibly selfless and, IMO, heroic. Giving up that little baby to a family who can care for it better than you are able to is a difficult decision to make, and it is a far cry from abandoning or killing a baby. It is in some cases, saving the baby’s life. Adoption is a gift.
March 3rd, 2009 at 10:36 pm
A woman would make those choices for a lot of reasons.
She is not physically ready to carry a child.
She is not emotionally ready to care for a child.
she’s a drug addict.
She’s immature.
She doesn’t think it’s fair to bring a child into the world with ill-prepared parents and an uncertain future.
March 4th, 2009 at 6:32 pm
I personally could not do any of those things. I have more initiative and would consider that I have to be ready to raise a child and make it happen.
March 5th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Erm…I’m not sure where you live, but where I live it’s illegal to dump a baby in a hosiptal or anywhere.
Adoption is a brilliant thing, it prevents a child from being with parents who aren’t mentally or phsically capable and sends them to a loving home where the parents cannot have children.
Why should a woman make a choice if she isn’t mentally or financially ready? I thought that was simple, if she didn’t then she (if she couldn’t afford it) would cause her and her child to starve, be homeless or rely on the good old tax payer to support her. If she wasn’t mentally capable then she would cause herself and her child mental and maybe even physical harm.
A woman can have an abortion because it’s in her body and technically a foetus isn’t a human being.
March 9th, 2009 at 1:10 am
Her body , her chioce, get over it!