Comments on: Why would my boyfriend rather me have an abortion that to give the baby up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/ Tue, 22 May 2012 13:58:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Member Jane http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6407 Member Jane Sat, 19 Dec 2009 12:22:32 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6407 A lot to address here. 1. Abortion is easy. Adoption is hard. This could be why your boyfriend would prefer you to have an abortion. Abortion is a simple medical procedure which resets the situation as if the unwanted pregnancy had never occurred. Pregnancy is incredibly difficult, and handing your baby over to be raised by someone else is extremely difficult, if your boyfriend cares about you he wouldn't want you to experience these things. Also, if you continue this pregnancy, you'll be bringing his child into this world against his wishes. This was an unplanned pregnancy and he's not ready to be a parent and shouldn't be forced into that situation before he is ready. And if you adopt out his child, there will be a child out there with his genes who could very well come knocking on his door someday. Whatever decision you make greatly affects him. Try to consider his perspective. 2. I don't see why this makes you sick. Perhaps you have become caught up in some of the lies bring spread about abortion, such as that an embryo is a human life. An embryo is actually a mere fraction of an inch, has no limbs and doesn't resemble anything human and has no ability to think or feel. Aborting an embryo is about as complicated as removing a wart. It would probably help if you educated yourself on the subject so you can make an informed decision. 3. You shouldn't keep the baby unless you can be responsible and provide for it. Just because you became pregnant, does not mean you should become a parent. Being a parent is the most life-changing situation in your life and not something to be taken lightly. Children deserve to have nothing but the best coming into this world. If you can't provide the best, an abortion would be the best. Don't keep the baby to spite your boyfriend. 4. If you do decide to continue this pregnancy you will forever be linked to your boyfriend and the child you have together. He would be the father of that child and would assume parental rights. You can't go on to continue the pregnancy and expect the father to step back and assume the role of sperm donor. 5. Abortion would be a good solution to your situation. You sound very young, naive, uneducated and immature. This is an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, there is no reason to continue it. You have a weak relationship with the father whom you are not married to or even in a serious long-term, committed relationship with. I would hate to think of a child coming into this situation. At least become informed and consider abortion. Otherwise, adoption would be the next best choice, but adoption isn't perfect.<a href="http://www.englishoverseas.com/teach-english/teach-english-croatia.htm"> Member Jane</a> A lot to address here.

1. Abortion is easy. Adoption is hard. This could be why your boyfriend would prefer you to have an abortion. Abortion is a simple medical procedure which resets the situation as if the unwanted pregnancy had never occurred. Pregnancy is incredibly difficult, and handing your baby over to be raised by someone else is extremely difficult, if your boyfriend cares about you he wouldn’t want you to experience these things. Also, if you continue this pregnancy, you’ll be bringing his child into this world against his wishes. This was an unplanned pregnancy and he’s not ready to be a parent and shouldn’t be forced into that situation before he is ready. And if you adopt out his child, there will be a child out there with his genes who could very well come knocking on his door someday. Whatever decision you make greatly affects him. Try to consider his perspective.

2. I don’t see why this makes you sick. Perhaps you have become caught up in some of the lies bring spread about abortion, such as that an embryo is a human life. An embryo is actually a mere fraction of an inch, has no limbs and doesn’t resemble anything human and has no ability to think or feel. Aborting an embryo is about as complicated as removing a wart. It would probably help if you educated yourself on the subject so you can make an informed decision.

3. You shouldn’t keep the baby unless you can be responsible and provide for it. Just because you became pregnant, does not mean you should become a parent. Being a parent is the most life-changing situation in your life and not something to be taken lightly. Children deserve to have nothing but the best coming into this world. If you can’t provide the best, an abortion would be the best. Don’t keep the baby to spite your boyfriend.

4. If you do decide to continue this pregnancy you will forever be linked to your boyfriend and the child you have together. He would be the father of that child and would assume parental rights. You can’t go on to continue the pregnancy and expect the father to step back and assume the role of sperm donor.

5. Abortion would be a good solution to your situation. You sound very young, naive, uneducated and immature. This is an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, there is no reason to continue it. You have a weak relationship with the father whom you are not married to or even in a serious long-term, committed relationship with. I would hate to think of a child coming into this situation. At least become informed and consider abortion. Otherwise, adoption would be the next best choice, but adoption isn’t perfect. Member Jane

]]> By: G http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6406 G Wed, 16 Dec 2009 15:01:39 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6406 You are very admired! Just stick it out girl, you'll never regret it! Not many are like you!<a href="http://www.familylawmadeeasy.com/family-law-lawyer.htm"> G</a> You are very admired! Just stick it out girl, you’ll never regret it! Not many are like you! G

]]> By: && hez gone </3 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6405 && hez gone Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:26:34 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6405 I think he might want you to have an abortion just because he feels if you carry the baby to term you might get attached and want to change your mind. But more power to you if you are going to keep it and put it up for adoption! not many people do that! Best of luck and my prayers are with you and the baby.<a href="http://www.premierhomestyle.com/fountains-1605"> && hez gone </3</a> I think he might want you to have an abortion just because he feels if you carry the baby to term you might get attached and want to change your mind. But more power to you if you are going to keep it and put it up for adoption! not many people do that! Best of luck and my prayers are with you and the baby. && hez gone

]]> By: Victoria http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6404 Victoria Fri, 11 Dec 2009 20:37:05 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6404 I think it may because your boyfriend doesn't have the power enough to give the baby away and he knows that if you had have the baby in side of you for 9 months that he wouldn't be strong enough to give it for adoption.. but thats just how i feel. I hope everything works out :)<a href="http://www.fresh-coffee.com/coffee/speciality-coffee.htm"> Victoria</a> I think it may because your boyfriend doesn’t have the power enough to give the baby away and he knows that if you had have the baby in side of you for 9 months that he wouldn’t be strong enough to give it for adoption.. but thats just how i feel.

I hope everything works out :) Victoria

]]> By: Sam http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6403 Sam Wed, 09 Dec 2009 09:31:26 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6403 Less paper work. Make the choice together. Don't argue so much, just talk about it. Tell him what you think. Good Luck.<a href="http://www.resumeminers.com/student-loans/types-of-student-loans.htm"> Sam</a> Less paper work. Make the choice together. Don’t argue so much, just talk about it. Tell him what you think. Good Luck. Sam

]]> By: Mommy2Be http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6402 Mommy2Be Mon, 07 Dec 2009 10:26:35 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6402 OMFG! Lik tis is EXACTLY what im going through! I really dont wana kill my baby but he does and im like lets jus but it up for adoption and he's like not happening. I don't get it at all..he wont have any responsibility for the baby and da baby wont have to die..a win win right?? well no! not for him<a href="http://www.proofficesupply.com/office-store-supply.htm"> Mommy2Be</a> OMFG! Lik tis is EXACTLY what im going through! I really dont wana kill my baby but he does and im like lets jus but it up for adoption and he’s like not happening. I don’t get it at all..he wont have any responsibility for the baby and da baby wont have to die..a win win right?? well no! not for him Mommy2Be

]]> By: Paula http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6401 Paula Sat, 05 Dec 2009 03:35:58 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6401 in my opinion... he thinks he can 'escape' this. but if you keep it he's thinking you will grow a bond(which you do) and you'll keep it.. he doesn't want that attachment. but it's your choice, your body. I personally don't believe in them. If your gonna get rid of anyone make your it's your boyfriend. a life is precious.<a href="http://www.resumeminers.com/Job-Search.htm"> Paula</a> in my opinion… he thinks he can ‘escape’ this.

but if you keep it he’s thinking you will grow a bond(which you do) and you’ll keep it..

he doesn’t want that attachment. but it’s your choice, your body.
I personally don’t believe in them.

If your gonna get rid of anyone make your it’s your boyfriend. a life is precious. Paula

]]> By: i hate yahoo http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6400 i hate yahoo Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:31:27 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6400 My fiance's the same way and it also really irritates me. I think it might be because he's not ready for that kind of responsibility and thinks it'd just be easier to have it aborted. Also, maybe he thinks he might feel guilty of giving the baby away to another family. Idk... this might not be the best answer, but I know those are my thoughts. ^^ Good luck, tho! I hope it works out for you 3!<a href="http://www.ihearclear.com/elderly-hearing-loss.htm"> i hate yahoo</a> My fiance’s the same way and it also really irritates me.
I think it might be because he’s not ready for that kind of responsibility and thinks it’d just be easier to have it aborted. Also, maybe he thinks he might feel guilty of giving the baby away to another family.
Idk… this might not be the best answer, but I know those are my thoughts. ^^
Good luck, tho! I hope it works out for you 3! i hate yahoo

]]> By: Katie H http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6399 Katie H Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:27:43 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6399 You need to sit down with him and tell him your decision. Sounds like you have and if he won't accept it stop seeing him. Tell him to leave, lock the doors, block his number, take him to court, or whatever it takes if it gets to that point. I'd explain that if he wants to help you raise the child he can stay, otherwise he can go. He'll either get the idea or you'll have to do something drastic. He's probably in denial and an abortion would make it seem like it never happened. Best of luck! And kudos to you for not wanting an abortion.<a href="http://www.chefcookingware.com/911"> Katie H</a> You need to sit down with him and tell him your decision. Sounds like you have and if he won’t accept it stop seeing him. Tell him to leave, lock the doors, block his number, take him to court, or whatever it takes if it gets to that point. I’d explain that if he wants to help you raise the child he can stay, otherwise he can go. He’ll either get the idea or you’ll have to do something drastic. He’s probably in denial and an abortion would make it seem like it never happened. Best of luck! And kudos to you for not wanting an abortion. Katie H

]]> By: ✮Lottie✮Our Girl due in 25 days! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6398 ✮Lottie✮Our Girl due in 25 days! Mon, 30 Nov 2009 11:50:50 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/why-would-my-boyfriend-rather-me-have-an-abortion-that-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6398 My guess is he doesn't want you or him to get attached to the baby. With an abortion he gets out of his responsibilities and will feel less guilty than if he put the baby up for adoption. Tbh, you should just leave him & keep the baby.<a href="http://www.resumeminers.com/Networking.htm"> ✮Lottie✮Our Girl due in 25 days!</a> My guess is he doesn’t want you or him to get attached to the baby. With an abortion he gets out of his responsibilities and will feel less guilty than if he put the baby up for adoption.
Tbh, you should just leave him & keep the baby. ✮Lottie✮Our Girl due in 25 days!

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