Comments on: wife is pregnant by another man.she wants the baby but i don’t.is adoption a good option to save the marriage?

By: Tialona

Tialona — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 06:44:53 +0000

If she cheated on you,and you all work things out..and say you both decide that adoption is the best thing to do to save the marriage..what makes you think it wont happen again?so there probably isn’t any use,maybe you should just let go you may love her…but does she love you? Tialona

By: Eliana's Momma

**Eliana's Momma** — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 08:56:35 +0000

She shouldn’t have cheated on you. That was very wrong on her part however you CANNOT ask her to give the baby up for adoption to save your marriage. I know you don’t want to hear this but that is just wrong. It is her baby and she is its mother. The baby needs her. Obviously you need her to so try to be close to the child and make him/her your own. You cannot put her in that position. If you feel you need to leave her then just do it. Don’t ask her to give up her baby. Go to counseling. Good luck!! **Eliana’s Momma**

By: lynette

lynette — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:40:41 +0000

i kinda agree with you that maybe she should put the baby up for adoption or give the baby to the father so he can raise the baby. lynette

By: ary

ary — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 13:27:34 +0000

ummm i understand where you’re coming from but this is a baby a HUMAN BEINg and it would be so selfish of your wife to give this baby up & not give him/her the bnurturing it deserves just because she messed up…a son/daughter is a million times more important and sacred than a marriage sorryy thats what my morals tell me..you dont have to take responsibility for this kidd bkuss its not yours but you shouldnt pressure her to get rid of it..also have in mind that if the biological father doesnt claim it by law if the babby is born while you two were married the baby wioll b YOURS ary

By: msj

msj — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:37:54 +0000

Even if you feel the child may be a constant reminder of something she may have done, my mother in law whose husband raised her two children always said that it never matters who the sperm donor is only who the father will be. If you can over look and move past not being the sperm donor you could become a great dad and father to this baby.

Good Luck with everything, I hope it works out for all of you. msj

By: Tea & Gin girl

Tea & Gin girl — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 22:36:56 +0000

Adoption may only make your wife resent you. She will always wonder about her child and it could drive you apart.

If you keep the child, and you raise him/her as your own, it could work out to be wonderful. It doesn’t matter who biologically fathered it.

Think of it as your own adopted child, and your way of formally forgiving your wife.

Good luck. Tea & Gin girl

By: xxitalianmamixz

xxitalianmamixz — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 01:40:10 +0000

well idk honestly because im not in your shoes but i do understand where you’re coming from completely.. but its a another life. a baby whom needs love just as much as anybody else. who knows maybe you can bond really well, im sorry if i didn’t help. good luck xxitalianmamixz