Comments on: Will my husband resent me for not giving our baby up for adoption?

By: MumboVonJumbo

MumboVonJumbo — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 23:11:29 +0000

After this one is born, get your tubes tied and quit whoring around!

By: kat

kat — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 08:04:41 +0000

he is being selfish… im sure when he sees that baby he will think differently though…good luck

By: twinous

twinous — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:01:57 +0000

even tho the women carry the baby men have to deal with it too and they can even have symptoms of bein pregnant like morning sickness and stuff and hes probably goin through an emotional roller coaster right now this is a big deal and its very scary to him its goin to change his life forever! and in my opinion u should have the baby and keep it when he looks in that baby’s eyes and see a lil peice of him he will melt

By: wendischildcare

wendischildcare — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 05:57:10 +0000

Bottom line is, how do you feel about having a baby? If your husband has voiced his disapproval of having a child, I can almost guarantee he will not be a very positive role model for your child and may end up resenting the child. You need to be very careful with this type of resentment, watch for the red flags, it can be a very dangerous situation for your child.

By: roussin_4

roussin_4 — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 01:09:56 +0000

I think sometimes men get scared when they think about having children and all of the things that they will have to give up. Having a child is a blessing and if he does not feel that he is ready to be a father then he should walk away. At this point giving it up for adoption would be hard for both of you considering that you have already bonded with the child and have not had the mindset that it is not yours to keep. Just let it go and if he loves you he will love your child as well. I think he will come around when the baby is born. It might take awhile but don’t give up. Children need both parents and sometimes people make harsh decisions about that.

By: mich

mich — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:21:30 +0000

you must do what you feel is right. If your husband is losing it a bit, it is scary, but he should have considered the consequences before sowing his oats! If you bend to his will and make the wrong decision you will never forgive yourself. A baby does put a strain on a relationship, but if its a strong relationship it will weather these pressures. Don’t be pushed into making a decision you will regret. This will not only effect you, but the baby, family and your husband. Stick to your guns. If you want this baby, you keep it, you husband will very likely come round, and if he doesnt, was he such a great catch?, you deserve better. Good luck with you birth.

By: mikeatola

mikeatola — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 12:40:03 +0000

He may be scared right now, but in time I’m presuming that he will come around to accepting the responsibility of being a father. Partying will not always be an alternative route of enjoyment. Together, both of you will be able to work on this and sort out all issues. For even though trials and troubles will come, it’s through working them out that will make a difference and not running away from them and finding an enjoyment activity to run to instead of accepting responsibility.

By: ilovecdo

ilovecdo — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 05:03:49 +0000

Your husband sounds like a control freak that needs to get his priorities in order. I was considering adoption also when I was pregnant. But when my son was born my boyfriend refused to comply so I didn’t go through with it. Now I cry when I even think what my life would be like if I didn’t have my son in my life. He means the world to me. Think about your baby, not your husband or yourself. Make sure that baby has a safe, loving environment to go home to.
Babies are blessings! Take care

By: hulkerino1

hulkerino1 — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 07:58:48 +0000

There is no way to know. It is very common for men to freak out when they are finally confronted with the fact that “YOU ARE NOW AN ADULT” and have to give up some of their childlike ways. Keep the baby. If he’s mature enough, he’ll come around, if not and he resents you, is it any worse than you resenting him for making you give up the baby?

By: A K

A K — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 08:55:19 +0000

If he does not come around tell him he is allowed to sleep on the sofa or move out either way you will need help with his child and you do not want to find someone else because you love him but if that is what it takes you will find you another help mate someone that wants to be with you and your child.I hope this will help you.