Would you be able to give your baby up for adoption?
ɮɛռȶʟɛʏֆ ʍօʍʍʏ♥ asked:
Im not pregnant or giving my son up for adoption, i was watching adoption diaries last night and started thinking if i would be able to do that…I don’t think i would be able to..Carrying the baby for 9 months, seeing the ultrasounds & then giving birth and then just handing the baby over would be to hard…Would you be able to do that?
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Im not pregnant or giving my son up for adoption, i was watching adoption diaries last night and started thinking if i would be able to do that…I don’t think i would be able to..Carrying the baby for 9 months, seeing the ultrasounds & then giving birth and then just handing the baby over would be to hard…Would you be able to do that?
Theres no point to this question really except it was something to do…
Just so nobody gets mad, i have nothing against adoption. i would just get to attached to the baby.
June 1st, 2010 at 7:21 am
At this point in my life, I woudln’t need to give a baby up for adoption.
But after losing one at 3 days old, knowing I will never see him again, adoption would be cake. Tracey Seth
June 4th, 2010 at 1:49 am
I’m not pregnant but No, personally i could never do it, it would be like losing apart of myself Carly xoxo
June 6th, 2010 at 11:57 am
After all that work? No way!
THen again, I’m one of those women who just is meant to have children. not everyone is like that Sweetpea
June 8th, 2010 at 1:50 am
Never. Sareena
June 8th, 2010 at 8:29 pm
I was adopted at birth. I know from the side of being the adopted child that I had a lot of questions growing up, so I have an idea of what an adopted child might feel.
I don’t think I could do it. Unless I had no other choice (I refuse to choose abortion) and if I had no way to care for the child, I may do it. But I doubt it. Bonding with that baby for nine months and giving birth only to give the baby away isn’t something I think anyone can do lightly. I really think I wouldn’t be able to do it. I don’t want my child questioning if I loved them or if I valued them at all.
That’s just my thoughts. I don’t mean to hurt or offend anyone else if they have had to make that hard choice. I just know how I feel about it. Texas Mommy
June 11th, 2010 at 6:07 am
This is a situation where a person cannot possibly say what SHE would do, until or unless she finds herself in the position of having to make the decision.
I went through 2 years of fertility treatments to have my daughter. So obviously she was very much wanted and hoped for, and we were financially/emotionally/practically ready to be parents. But if I were a pregnant 16 year old, having to make a decision for both MY future and the future of the child, or finding myself pregnant while struggling to support the X number of children I already have — maybe that would be an option for me. Women who opt for adoption rarely do so because they don’t love the baby. They make the choice because they DO love the baby, and want him/her to have a better life than THEY can provide. Pippin
June 11th, 2010 at 7:26 pm
Me personally, NO. I was told I couldn’t have kids when I was 21. When I was 33 got pregnant, it was a miracle. There is no circumstance in the world that would have made me give up that baby or any future babies.
But i do think that adoption is a wonderful thing for those who don’t want to or can’t raise their babies. That way, those who can’t have children could adopt and raise them from newborn instead of them bouncing around foster care later on. Live and Learn
June 13th, 2010 at 10:31 pm
No I could not.
With one of my children I really contemplated it, until I started asking questions. I have a very close family friend who adopted her only son. No one else wanted him because he was not “perfect” at birth. At 2 weeks old he was labeled with a learning disability so no one else wanted him. My friend just wanted to be a mom, she didn’t care if it was a boy, girl, white, black, “normal”, abnormal, etc.
When she and her husband got on the LIST to be able to adopt it was a 5 year wait. It went from 5 years to 1 month.
I do not think I could put my child up for adoption and always wonder if someone passed up on my child simply because s/he was not “perfect”.
Just a side note. Her son now 35 even with his “learning disability” completed high school with a 4.0 gpa, went to college and completed it as well, he has 2 degrees, and currently owns his own internet business and computer repair. Mommy of 5
June 17th, 2010 at 6:07 am
I’m not pregnant, but my husband and I have been ttc for about 2 months now. Even just thinking about giving up a child gives me an uneasy feeling and no, after 9 months of loving the baby I wouldn’t ever be able to give it up. Sunshine
June 20th, 2010 at 2:35 pm
I do not know if I could or not. It takes a strong woman to do what is best for her baby by giving him up. kim h
June 21st, 2010 at 12:48 am
No way! But if you had asked me this when I was 16, I bet the answer would have been different. you don’t know me GP
June 23rd, 2010 at 8:38 pm
Nope couldn’t do it.
An abortion would be far easier to handle for me.
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion and I have a 16 month old daughter . I believe in protecting my daughter’s choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
EDIT - Did my honesty bother someone?
Whatever~ Divine Oubliette
June 24th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
I would never be able to go through with an adoption. I wouldn’t even be able to fool myself enough to get another family involved.
I believe in a woman’s right to choose. If I was ever in a situation like this I believe terminating the pregnancy would be the right decision for me.
Thank God I’ll never be in a situation like that. Hillbilly Lily is 6 months
June 27th, 2010 at 6:44 am
In my present situation right now, there’s no way I could give up my child. If my situation was different, who knows what might happen. I can’t say I never would because I’ve never been in a desperate enough situation to even have to consider it. Kat H
June 29th, 2010 at 12:26 pm
I could, IF it was necessary. Luckily, so far I haven’t had a need, and I don’t anticipate any need in the future either. Despite living under the poverty line in a fixer-upper with only one room with heating/cooling, it’s not that hard to take care of an infant/toddler. My 2.75yo doesn’t care - I’m much more annoyed by our living circumstances than he is (and we do go to the playground etc a lot). So, I wouldn’t give a baby up for financial reasons. But, if for some reason I were to become abusive or something, I’d give the baby up. Better to give it up voluntarily than to beat it to death or wait until CPS takes it away… it’s not some guilt I want to feel when I’m older.
Btw, you don’t *have* to look at the ultrasound. If you know you’re going to give the baby up for adoption and you think it’d be easier not to see the ultrasound, you can choose not to.
I probably still would look at the ultrasound, but I’d probably also choose an open adoption if I felt the need to give the baby up. Ian
June 30th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
No I wouldn’t. I would either keep it or abort. Jill26