Comments on: Would you be able to give your baby up for adoption?

By: Jill26

Jill26 — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:02:40 +0000

No I wouldn’t. I would either keep it or abort. Jill26

By: Ian

Ian — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 17:26:47 +0000

I could, IF it was necessary. Luckily, so far I haven’t had a need, and I don’t anticipate any need in the future either. Despite living under the poverty line in a fixer-upper with only one room with heating/cooling, it’s not that hard to take care of an infant/toddler. My 2.75yo doesn’t care - I’m much more annoyed by our living circumstances than he is (and we do go to the playground etc a lot). So, I wouldn’t give a baby up for financial reasons. But, if for some reason I were to become abusive or something, I’d give the baby up. Better to give it up voluntarily than to beat it to death or wait until CPS takes it away… it’s not some guilt I want to feel when I’m older.

Btw, you don’t *have* to look at the ultrasound. If you know you’re going to give the baby up for adoption and you think it’d be easier not to see the ultrasound, you can choose not to.

I probably still would look at the ultrasound, but I’d probably also choose an open adoption if I felt the need to give the baby up. Ian

By: Kat H

Kat H — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 11:44:08 +0000

In my present situation right now, there’s no way I could give up my child. If my situation was different, who knows what might happen. I can’t say I never would because I’ve never been in a desperate enough situation to even have to consider it. Kat H

By: Hillbilly Lily is 6 months

Hillbilly Lily is 6 months — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 03:16:35 +0000

I would never be able to go through with an adoption. I wouldn’t even be able to fool myself enough to get another family involved.
I believe in a woman’s right to choose. If I was ever in a situation like this I believe terminating the pregnancy would be the right decision for me.
Thank God I’ll never be in a situation like that. Hillbilly Lily is 6 months

By: Divine Oubliette

Divine Oubliette — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:38:33 +0000

Nope couldn’t do it.

An abortion would be far easier to handle for me.

~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion and I have a 16 month old daughter . I believe in protecting my daughter’s choice.

Abortion: There is a Consensus

EDIT - Did my honesty bother someone?

Whatever~ Divine Oubliette

By: you don't know me GP

you don't know me GP — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:48:14 +0000

No way! But if you had asked me this when I was 16, I bet the answer would have been different. you don’t know me GP

By: kim h

kim h — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 19:35:07 +0000

I do not know if I could or not. It takes a strong woman to do what is best for her baby by giving him up. kim h

By: Sunshine

Sunshine — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 11:07:53 +0000

I’m not pregnant, but my husband and I have been ttc for about 2 months now. Even just thinking about giving up a child gives me an uneasy feeling and no, after 9 months of loving the baby I wouldn’t ever be able to give it up. Sunshine

By: Mommy of 5

Mommy of 5 — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 03:31:18 +0000

No I could not.

With one of my children I really contemplated it, until I started asking questions. I have a very close family friend who adopted her only son. No one else wanted him because he was not “perfect” at birth. At 2 weeks old he was labeled with a learning disability so no one else wanted him. My friend just wanted to be a mom, she didn’t care if it was a boy, girl, white, black, “normal”, abnormal, etc.

When she and her husband got on the LIST to be able to adopt it was a 5 year wait. It went from 5 years to 1 month.

I do not think I could put my child up for adoption and always wonder if someone passed up on my child simply because s/he was not “perfect”.

Just a side note. Her son now 35 even with his “learning disability” completed high school with a 4.0 gpa, went to college and completed it as well, he has 2 degrees, and currently owns his own internet business and computer repair. Mommy of 5

By: Live and Learn

Live and Learn — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 00:26:11 +0000

Me personally, NO. I was told I couldn’t have kids when I was 21. When I was 33 got pregnant, it was a miracle. There is no circumstance in the world that would have made me give up that baby or any future babies.
But i do think that adoption is a wonderful thing for those who don’t want to or can’t raise their babies. That way, those who can’t have children could adopt and raise them from newborn instead of them bouncing around foster care later on. Live and Learn