Wouldn’t giving up a baby for adoption be a better alternative than abortion?
unseenmatter asked:
There’re good couples out there looking for kids. If a woman doesn’t feel as though she’s ready to carry the responsibility of raising a child, then why not give it to someone who can?
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There’re good couples out there looking for kids. If a woman doesn’t feel as though she’s ready to carry the responsibility of raising a child, then why not give it to someone who can?
March 12th, 2009 at 1:51 am
Yes it would be a better alternative.
March 14th, 2009 at 11:20 am
Why should a woman have to have a man tell her what to do? Its her choice, its her right. Some dont want the trauma of having a child, full stop, and i dont believe any blokes like us even have a say in this.
March 15th, 2009 at 10:55 am
Abortion kills. Giving up a baby for adoption is a very difficult decision to make, but your baby will have a home. Most reliable adoption agencies screen the prospective parents very well and now there are very few babies to be adopted.
March 16th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
Of course… unless you are a liberal.
March 17th, 2009 at 7:02 am
Of course… it is the most giving thing that can happen in that situation.
March 20th, 2009 at 1:13 am
That would lead to overpopulation very fast!
March 22nd, 2009 at 5:27 am
Yesss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
March 23rd, 2009 at 8:12 pm
i think so. Im against abortion so thats what i would recommend.
March 25th, 2009 at 11:19 pm
There are too many children out there in the foster system as it is. Moreover, there are many instances where abortion is done for the mother’s health or because the baby would be born with a devastating condition and never lead a normal life.
March 27th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
Your reasoning is very sound, and I agree with you. Most times I think this would be the best solution. I am sure there are times when aborting is the only answer, but rare. Stand up for you believe.
March 29th, 2009 at 3:14 am
Why, so that it can sit in a orphanage for its childhood or so that it can be adopted by horrible people that will abuse it? Get a fuckin life.
March 30th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
I think you must be a man. There is a bond that forms regardless of a choice to put the baby up for adoption. I think a lot of women have a hard time thinking of being responsible for a fetus/baby in their body for 10 months and then seeing it and giving it up. I am not PRO abortion, but pro choice. I couldn’t do it that is for sure, but I think that maybe in a lot of instances for health reasons, the age of the mother, etc there are reasons abortion may be the answer. Yes, there are a lot of parents out there wanting to be parents, but the world is way more populated with children already looking for homes, sad thing is everybody wants a baby!! So the other kids sit in orphanages and foster care because they are not babies!
March 31st, 2009 at 10:42 pm
It is a decision only the woman/girl can make , no one should make it for her. But she also should have the opportunity to make a choice.
April 3rd, 2009 at 2:16 am
That is very true… I think abortion should not be an option…
I have a friend who has done both…
and is glad the second time she did adoption.. it is much better..
April 3rd, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Why don’t you carry a baby for 9 months after you’ve been raped, abandoned or were the victim of incest? See how much fun it is to go through a painful delivery. Then tell women what to do. If you don’t like abortion, don’t have one.
April 5th, 2009 at 5:01 pm
Well if a woman is home she should take care of it. But if she can`t she should put it up for adoption.
April 6th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
absolutely, i mean people do that with unwanted puppies, ya know, why should we give babies that are unwanted to families that really want children
IMHO, yes much better alternative
April 8th, 2009 at 8:23 am
Absolutely, I was supposed to be aborted, but at the last minute in the clinic my biological mother changed her mind and put me up for adoption.
April 11th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
no matter what, they are both heartbreaking decisions. adoption almost seems worse, cause you feel the baby grow inside of you, then give birth and then give it away! it’s just so heartbreaking. but so is abortion. who’s to say what is right or wrong. i think it’s up to the individual and her situation.
April 12th, 2009 at 3:21 am
There are already many kids out there waiting for “good couples” to adopt them. Not all of them, however, are white. That seems to be a problem for many of the childless, white-bred, Church loving, Bible preaching, American couples out there.
April 14th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
That’s a difficult question. The woman who has an abortion might feel bad about “getting rid” of the child but obversely the woman who gives her child up for adoption might always wonder how the child is doing and if they are being treated properly by their adopted parents.
April 17th, 2009 at 12:44 am
I guess there’s no way to know for sure that child would be placed in a good home. It would be a chance that you would have to take.
I don’t know…death before they’re viable…the possiility of a childhood full of abuse…or happy loving family.
Finality or always wondering if they are okay?
Tough decision either way
April 17th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
that would be great if more woman could do that but alot of the reasons is they just dont want to be pregnant in the first place. There are some wonderful people out there that would make great parents but cannot. plus once you give birth giving away that child is usually harder than just being pregnant, even if they think they cannot take care of it. Its the bond they have when being born. but again adobtion would be a better alternative than abortion just for the family that could give the child alot of love.
April 19th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!! There are so many people who can’t have children and would give anything to have one. Abortion should be ILLEGAL!!!!!
April 21st, 2009 at 12:31 am
Giving it up for adoption is better then killing it. If they(it takes 2!!!) weren’t ready to become parents then they should’ve thought about that before hand when the deed was being done..a baby is a gift, and when you cant have one or are unsuccessfully trying and people are just “giving” them away it really makes you think on how blessed people are and how selfish they are at the same time,and yes accident do happen, i mean if alot of the people in the world only planned pregnancies, there wouldn’t be a whole lot of us!! I’m not a holy roller or anything but when you cant have one it just upsets you
April 23rd, 2009 at 7:50 pm
No, it wouldn’t be. Sorry for the novel, but:
“Cost of live birth in the US:
According to babycenter.com
“The cost of a normal vaginal birth for a self-pay patient with a one-day stay ranged from $2,500 to $3,000. If, however, things do not go as you plan and you end up being delivered by cesarean section, then the cost will be significantly higher.”
An abortion in the US generally costs between $300 and $700 dollars, depending on your location, the type of abortion you’re getting, what clinic you go to, whether or not you can receive financial aid, so on and so forth.
I personally think that it is far more wrong to bring into the world a child that you do not want and cannot care for, expecting others to bear the expense (mental, physical, financial) of raising it, than it is to make sure that the child never exists in the first place. The current system of Adoption in this country is deplorable, and until every single orphanage and foster home worldwide is empty and there’s still a massive demand for children, adoption has proven itself not to be the end-all-be-all fixit solution. While I feel for the plight of the childless who seek offspring, it is not the job of the unintentionally pregnant to play broodmares for them.
Racism in adoption
There is no lack of unwanted children in this world. If parents are awaiting a child to love, it’s generally because they have criteria that aren’t being met.
Take for example, this:
“So. It wasn’t about babies after all, but about white babies. They didn’t tell us that in religion class, nor did they mention it at the march. But wait! Open any newspaper and you can find couples advertising, selling themselves as loving parents who wish to complete their lives with your baby. Yes. Your white baby.”
Don’t believe the article? Check this out:
Choose any family, then click the ‘learn more about our family’ link. It’ll send you to a chart outlining the family and the criteria they seek in an infant. Here’s the most common answer:
Newborn. Caucasian. No special needs.
It’s not that there aren’t hundreds of thousands of unwanted and unloved children already existing in the world, desperately needing homes… it’s that they don’t fit the acceptable profile.
For every shiny new baby you add to the system, another existing child doesn’t get adopted.
Meet Dominique and Ivy.
They need a family. If I give birth to a perfect, healthy, white newborn, and a loving family adopts it, that’s one less family who will consider adopting Dominique and Ivy.”
April 25th, 2009 at 8:09 am
i believe adoption is most definitely a better alternative……i’m a female and so the argument that women should have a choice because it’s their body blah blah blah is a bunch of bull-hockey….abortion takes away a human life..no way around it…and it’s not like the baby has a say in it…..the only way i would even think about someone having an abortion was if it would cause death to the mother to have the baby….
April 25th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
I believe it’s imperative that we have laws in our country to allow women the right to a safe and legal abortion if they so choose. There are many situations and circumstances where that may be the best course of action. I believe it is a woman’s right to decide if she wants to carry the baby to term, or if she wants to abort it at the very beginning. It’s a difficult choice to make, but it’s a moral one that should be up to each individual, not the government.
April 25th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
abortion is not the answer, once you are carrying a child it not right to abort even if you were seduced and raped,two wrongs does not make it right, there are alot of unfortunate women who cannot bear children you can give it up for adoption, think how fortunate you are that your mom carried you through nine months and did not abort you